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What to do with people who do not want to help themselves, but prefer to scold others for their difficulties and illnesses? What if they get angry when they are given tips and advice?


When such a person appears in our environment, this means that we ourselves must learn not to interfere in our own business and accept these people as they are, recognizing their right to be who they want to be. They have the right to choose their own path. I understand that it’s not easy to watch how a person chooses a path full of difficulties and suffering. Often this is simply impossible to understand, especially when there are simple solutions. But we are not them: we cannot know why they make such a choice. This is part of their life plan. Through the experience that they choose, they have to learn life lessons.
They still do not know that they can be happy and live without experiencing so much suffering. For a very long time we believed that it was necessary to suffer in order to deserve more happiness, more money or more love.
Now we are moving towards a much more conscious world. Very soon we will all learn that we can improve, more and more filled with the energy of love, and for this we do not need to expose ourselves to suffering.
In other words, you must accept that these people still believe in suffering, and let them survive the consequences of their beliefs. You can simply remind them that they have a choice, that they can change their beliefs. You can add that you are at their service if they need you; to insist on more is useless. Here is a great opportunity to develop your tolerance for a person whose choice is different from yours. That, in essence, is all that you can do when a person is completely fenced off from your help.
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What to do with people who do not want to help themselves, but prefer to scold others for their difficulties and illnesses? What if they get angry when they are given tips and advice?

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