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How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-wife without feeling guilty? She is currently ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.


Nobody demands indifference from you. You may feel sympathy for someone without living emotions. You can be sensitive, without giving in to emotions. The suffering of your ex-spouse belongs to her, and only she alone knows why she is suffering. She may not be fully aware of this, but she still does the inner work.
You are afraid to feel guilty, because you think that an indifferent person is not a good person. Revise your definition of indifference. You want not to experience the suffering of your ex-spouse, and this is not indifference. This is love for oneself and for her. True love is the ability to give others the right to experience what they choose, even if you do not consider this choice to be the right one. Remember that she, just like you, has the right to choose: she can use her illness as a gift that helps her to raise the level of consciousness, but she can choose another thing - to survive this illness in agony and struggle.
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How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-wife without feeling guilty? She is currently ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.

  1. My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by the healer, went to prayer sessions, etc. At the present time she says that she gives herself into the hands of GOD and gradually prepares for death. She has two children, nine and fifteen years old. What can I do as a sister?
    Your sister seems to have already made her choice. If she made a decision, then it is important that you respect him. However, I see that you want to come to her aid, because it is difficult for you to accept her death. It is important for you to clarify what is difficult for you to accept. What do you experience in your soul? The next time you go to her, share your doubts with her, tell her that you have great difficulty in believing in
  2. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty that he did not renew his marital relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How do I get rid of this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, relying on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either to make it not happen again, because you feel guilty, or to change your
  3. I often feel guilty for being so happy with my spouse, whereas my parents were never happy together.
    I feel obliged to help my mother by giving her useful advice and paying attention to her. Why can't I be happy without feeling guilty? What you are experiencing is observed very often. Many children feel guilty for having surpassed their parents in some area. When parents are unhappy, it often happens that they cling to their children. It is possible that
  4. I think that having children is a big responsibility. It can even be called a life contract. When I think I can cause them suffering, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
    Change your beliefs. First, when you make a decision to get a child, you should not think that you are responsible for his happiness. Your first motivation should be to give your soul a chance to return in order to incarnate. It is a gift of self. Then, to continue growing, you must learn to love this soul that has chosen you. To have a child is
  5. I have a friend, he is going to divorce and he feels very guilty. How can I help him?
    First of all, find out if he wants help. If so, tell him about your new sense of guilt. Help him find out if he really is guilty, whether he is going to do harm to another, or whether he is simply expressing his limits in relation to the difficulties he is experiencing in marriage. Explain to him that violation of your limits in order to make someone happy
  6. My spouse goes to work. She never liked doing household chores, I know that and I always knew it. I also go to work. Since we got married, the maintenance of order in the house constantly rests on me. It starts to bother me. We both go to work, and how can I tell her that she has the same responsibility for maintaining cleanliness in the house as I do?
    Have you made a clear commitment before you made a decision about living together? Maybe you are committed to doing household chores, telling her, for example: “No problem. Will I do this? And now you are responsible for the consequences of your decision. However, if at the present time it has become too difficult for you, you need to tell your spouse about it. Ask her
  7. How to help my children, my ex-husband and his girlfriend to feel at ease at our meetings during holidays, birthdays, etc.? I feel very at ease with his girlfriend, but as soon as we are all together, I feel embarrassed.
    Did you ask your ex-spouse and your children if your feelings are true? If they say yes, if they really feel awkward, do they want you to help them? I feel in you a woman who shoulders responsibility for the happiness of others. Have you pledged to make sure that they always feel
  8. Currently, I have a friend with whom we have been meeting for a year now, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain long-term relations with him. But he says he is not ready, that he is afraid to make a commitment.
    You say we reap what we sow. Why does this happen to me, because I am the type of woman who easily makes a commitment? Moreover, this is not the first time for me. And it was difficult for other people to make a commitment to me. You have to ask yourself the following question: what motivates me to want so much to make a commitment? Maybe you this
  9. My mother has been in a psychiatric institute for more than a year, waiting for her placement in a medical institution. Since I am the only person through whom she communicates with the outside world, I feel obliged to take care of her. Other than the trust she gives me, what gift can I get from this situation? Our relations have never been close, practically they simply do not exist.
    As for the gift, the hint about it is contained in your question. This is the perfect case to get close to your mother. However, how do you experience a sense of duty towards her? Do you care for her from a pure heart? Would you feel guilty if you didn't do it? No child owes his parents and vice versa. However, the bonds that bind parents and children provide
  10. How to help someone who does not believe in himself is negatively tuned, but has an incredible potential?
    You actually say that you see the potential possibilities of this person, but he himself does not see them. First, agree that this person cannot yet see his own significance, and that it is useless for him to believe in something he cannot believe in. When a person considers himself to be ugly, then even if everyone tells him that he is handsome, he still doubts it. He doubts
  11. How not to feel guilty if the husband constantly shifts his responsibility to me?
    First of all, your spouse cannot transfer his responsibility to you. You are probably talking about his obligations. Secondly, has an agreement been reached between you and clearly defined obligations at this level? Who and what decided to do? Your spouse must always be responsible for the consequences of his actions. If he does not want to do anything, it would be nice to check that
  12. I would like to know what I can learn from my mother. It makes me experience emotions - in the sense that it always contradicts me. She is negatively disposed and always says that I will not succeed in starting a business.
    Judging by your question, I see that you blame your mother for your own emotions. Once again I emphasize that a person cannot be held responsible for anyone’s emotions. Only you are responsible for your emotions, that is, for your reaction to the words or deeds of your mother. You may not agree with what she tells you, but it is important that you feel that she is acting like her
  13. How can I feel happy if my spouse does not want to rise to my level of development?
    Mutual respect is fine, but for happiness this is not enough for me. If your spouse does not want to work on himself in the same direction and in the same rhythm as you, then this does not mean that he stopped in his development. It just doesn’t develop as fast as you. No one in this world has the right to control the evolution of another. If you give up trying to force a husband
  14. How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to endear himself? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
    The previous answer extends to this question. Why does a person often feel the need to help others without thinking that it can harm another? A person who decides to help someone, not thinking about what he can do, thinks only about himself. He needs someone's positive result to feel their own significance. Therefore he
  15. Challenge yourself
    Fathers, let me share with you some secrets I learned about young mothers. When a mother develops a strong healthy attachment to her child, she experiences an incredibly strong biological and hormonal effect. Therefore, it is natural that she reluctantly shares the care of the child with someone else. You can notice this when your child cries out. Suppose
  16. How should I deal with my spouse if he often has bouts of melancholia that reach panic?
    I am afraid that such a state of mind can seriously affect me. This situation affects you because it annoys you and because you refuse to understand the condition of your spouse. A person gets depressed when he has low self-esteem. You undoubtedly noticed that in moments of crisis the spouse complains of pain in the region of the heart. The heart shrinks and the body
  17. What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not give himself the report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he has sown?
    Laws apply to everyone, regardless of whether we believe in them or not. For example, if someone drives through a red light and tells the policeman that he doesn’t know the law or that he doesn’t believe in it, this jigit will still have a fine. The situation is the same with spiritual laws - the law of karma or the law of cause and effect. If a person knows that he is breaking the law, and yet deliberately
  18. When I go out for a walk alone or with a girlfriend, my husband always blames me or sulks me. Sometimes I still go out for a walk, and sometimes not. Somehow, I feel ill at ease. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I do not go out for a walk, then I feel unhappy. I know I give in to guilt, but I can't help it. What do i do?
    It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, who says that a good wife should not go out without her husband. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and wins more often. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to come to an agreement and
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