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How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-spouse without feeling guilty? Currently, she is ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.


Nobody demands indifference from you. You can feel empathy for someone without living emotions. You can be sensitive, not succumbing to emotions. The suffering of your ex-wife belongs to her, and she alone knows why she is experiencing this suffering. She may not be fully aware of this, but nonetheless internal work is going on.
You are afraid to feel guilty, because you think that an indifferent person is a bad person. Review your definition of indifference. You want not to experience the suffering of your ex-wife, and this is not indifference. It is love for oneself and for her. True love is the ability to empower others to experience what they choose, even if you do not think it is the right choice. Remember that she, just like "you, has the right to choose: she can use her illness as a gift that helps her raise her level of consciousness, but she can choose another thing - to experience this illness in torment and struggle.
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How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-spouse without feeling guilty? Currently, she is ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.

  1. My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by a medicine man, went to prayer sessions, etc. At present, she says that she is giving herself into the hands of GOD and is gradually preparing for death. She has two children of nine and fifteen. What can I do as a sister?
    Your sister, apparently, has already made her choice. If she made a decision, it is important that you respect him. However, I see that you want to come to her aid, since it is difficult for you to accept her death. It’s important for you to clarify what is hard for you to accept. What do you feel in the shower? The next time you go to her, share your doubts with her, tell her that you have great difficulty believing in
  2. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty for not renewing the relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How can I free myself from this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, based on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either make sure that this does not happen again, because you feel guilty, or change your
  3. I often feel guilty for being so happy with my spouse, while my parents have never been happy together.
    I feel obligated to help my mother, giving her useful advice and paying attention to her. Why can't I be happy without feeling guilty? What you are experiencing is very common. Many children feel guilty for having surpassed their parents in some area. When parents are unhappy, it often happens that they cling to their children. It is possible that
  4. I believe that giving birth to children is a big responsibility. It can even be called a lifetime contract. When I think I can hurt them, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
    Change your beliefs. Firstly, when you decide to have a baby, you should not think that you are responsible for his happiness. Your first motivation should be the desire to enable the soul to return in order to be embodied. It is a gift of self. Then, to continue your growth, you must learn to love this soul that has chosen you. Having a baby is
  5. I have a friend, he is going to get a divorce and feels very guilty. How can I help him?
    First of all, find out if he wants help. If so, tell him about your new concept of guilt. Help him find out if he really is to blame, whether he is going to harm another, or if he simply expresses his limits in relation to the difficulties he is experiencing in a married life. Explain to him that violating your limits in order to please someone
  6. My wife goes to work. She never loved doing household chores, I know that and always knew that. I also go to work. Since we got married, maintaining order in the house constantly falls on me. It starts to bother me. We both go to work, and how can I explain to her that for the maintenance of cleanliness in the house she bears the same responsibility as I do?
    Did you make a clear commitment before deciding to live together? Maybe you made a commitment to do household chores by telling her, for example: “No problem. Will I do this? And now you are responsible for the consequences of your decision. However, if at present it has become too difficult for you, you must tell your spouse about it. Ask her
  7. How to help my children, my ex-husband and his girlfriend feel at ease at our meetings during the holidays, birthdays, etc.? I feel very at ease with his girlfriend, but as soon as we find ourselves all together, I feel awkward.
    Have you asked your ex-spouse and your children if your feelings are true? If they say yes, if they really feel uncomfortable, do they want you to help them? I feel in you a woman who shoulders responsibility for the happiness of others. Have you made a commitment to ensure that they always feel
  8. At present, I have a friend whom we have been dating for a year, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain relations with him on a long-term basis. But he says that he’s not ready, that he’s afraid to make a commitment.
    You say that we reap what we sow. Why is this happening to me, because I am the type of woman who easily makes a commitment? Moreover, this is not the first time this has happened to me. And it was difficult for other people to make a commitment to me. You have to ask yourself the following question: what makes me want so much to make a commitment? Maybe you are this
  9. For more than a year now, my mother has been lying in a psychiatric institute waiting for placement in a medical institution. Since I am the only person through whom she communicates with the outside world, I feel obligated to take care of her. Apart from the trust that she gives me, what gift can I get from this situation? Our relations have never been close, practically they simply do not exist.
    As for the gift, a hint about it is contained in your question. This is an ideal case to get close to your mother. However, how do you experience a sense of obligation towards her? Do you care for her from a pure heart? Would you feel guilty if you didn’t? No child owes his parents and vice versa. However, bonds between parents and children provide
  10. How to help someone who does not believe in themselves, is negatively inclined, but has incredible potential?
    You actually say that you see the potential opportunities of this person, but he himself does not see them. First, agree that this person cannot yet see his own significance and that it is useless to make him believe in something that he cannot believe. When a person considers himself ugly, then even if everyone tells him that he is beautiful, he still doubts it. He doubts
  11. How not to feel guilty if the husband constantly shifts his responsibility to me?
    First of all, your spouse cannot transfer his responsibility to you. You are probably talking about his obligations. Secondly, have you already reached an agreement and clearly defined obligations at this level? To whom and what is it decided to do? Your spouse must be held accountable for the consequences of his actions. If he does not want to do anything, it would be nice to verify that
  12. I would like to know what I can learn from my mother. It makes me experience emotions - in the sense that it always contradicts me. She is negatively inclined and always says that I will not be able to achieve success in the business I have begun.
    Judging by your question, I see that you blame your mother for your own emotions. I emphasize once again that a person cannot be held responsible for anyone's emotions. Only you are responsible for your emotions, that is, for your reaction to the words or deeds of your mother. You may not agree with what she tells you, but it’s important that you feel that she is acting like her
  13. How can I feel happy if the spouse does not want to rise to my level of development?
    Mutual respect is fine, but for me this is not enough. If your spouse does not want to work on himself in the same direction and in the same rhythm as you, then this does not mean that he has stopped in his development. It just does not develop as fast as you. No one in this world has the right to control the evolution of another. If you give up trying to force your husband
  14. How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to evoke self-love? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
    The previous answer extends to this question. Why does a person often feel the need to help others without thinking that this can harm another? A person who decides to help someone without thinking about what he can do is only think about himself. He needs someone’s positive result to feel his own worth. Therefore he
  15. Test yourself
    Fathers, let me share with you some of the secrets that I learned about young mothers. When a mother develops a strong healthy attachment to her child, she experiences an incredibly strong biological and hormonal effect. Therefore, it is natural that she is reluctant to share caring for a child with anyone else. You may notice this when your child screams. Guess
  16. How can I behave with my spouse if he often has bouts of melancholy that reach a panic state?
    I’m afraid that such a state of mind can seriously affect me. This situation affects you because it annoys you and because you refuse to understand the condition of your spouse. A person becomes depressed when he has low self-esteem. You have undoubtedly noticed that at times of crisis a spouse complains of pain in the heart. The heart contracts and the body
  17. What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not realize himself in this report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he sowed?
    Laws apply to everyone regardless of whether we believe in them or not. For example, if someone passes a red light and tells the policeman that he is not aware of the law or that he does not believe in him, this dzhigit will still get a fine. The situation is exactly the same with spiritual laws - the law of karma or the law of cause and effect. If a person knows that he is breaking the law, and yet consciously
  18. When I go out alone or with my girlfriend, my husband always condemns me or pouts me. Sometimes I go out for a walk, and sometimes not. One way or another, I feel out of place. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I don’t go out for a walk, then I feel miserable. I know that I succumb to guilt, but I can not help myself. What do i do?
    It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, which says that a good wife should not go out without her spouse. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and more often wins. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to agree and
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