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How to help her husband sort out his feelings without telling him what to do?
My husband had an affair with one woman, but we got together again. After that, he twice met with her, it seems, at work, and I told him that he could turn to someone else with his affairs and not meet with her.
If you really want to help your husband sort out his feelings, then ask him to share his feelings with you. If you begin to advise him what to do, then he will become even more confused.
If he nevertheless begins to meet again with this woman, then call him for a frank conversation. Ask how he feels, if he still thinks about this romance, and what happens to him when he thinks about it, if he regrets what happened, if he wants to renew his relationship with that woman. How did he feel when meeting her? You will render him much more help if you treat him with sincere sympathy.
Of course, it will not be easy for you to do this, because, as it seems to me, you are a person with a strongly expressed possessive instinct. You would like to return your husband forever and possess him alone, but you want the impossible.
No one in this world has the right to possess another person. Each individual is a soul that has regained the shell of the human body with the goal of further improvement. Every soul has a certain destiny in this life. You do not have the right to influence your husband’s life plans or try to control him. We must use every opportunity to learn to love more. You had a great opportunity to learn how to love your spouse more, that is, to reconcile with the fact that he sometimes acts contrary to your desires.
Learning to love another is to give him complete freedom of action and allow him to be himself. If you want to keep everything under control, then you will not learn to love. You will adhere to the old, outdated views that have a negative impact on your life. In this case, the mind will guide you, not the heart. If you do not change your views, then your heart will never open. Remember: the mind must serve the heart, and not vice versa!
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