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When I go out for a walk alone or with a girlfriend, my husband always blames me or sulks me. Sometimes I still go out for a walk, and sometimes not. Somehow, I feel ill at ease. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I do not go out for a walk, then I feel unhappy. I know I give in to guilt, but I can't help it. What do i do?


It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, who says that a good wife should not go out without her husband. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and wins more often. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to come to an agreement and help you become happier. These two parts are sure they are right. It is not about driving away one of them. They both work for your well-being. It is necessary to accept both of them, to see and feel their good motivation. Over time, feeling that you have accepted and loved them, they will no longer be afraid of being rejected. Then they will help you make the best decisions, that is, to feel when it is better to stay at home with your spouse, and when it is better to go for a walk with your friends.
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When I go out for a walk alone or with a girlfriend, my husband always blames me or sulks me. Sometimes I still go out for a walk, and sometimes not. Somehow, I feel ill at ease. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I do not go out for a walk, then I feel unhappy. I know I give in to guilt, but I can't help it. What do i do?

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    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, relying on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either to make it not happen again, because you feel guilty, or to change your
  2. If I allow my teenage daughter to walk late in the evening and she suddenly gets pregnant or is addicted to drugs, I will feel guilty. What should I do? Maybe I'm too domineering father?
    Between us, tell me honestly: do you really believe that your daughter can get pregnant, or take drugs only late at night? You know perfectly well that there is no logic in your words. “However, since you feel guilty, I advise you to speak frankly about this with your daughter. Share your experiences with her. Also be aware that your feeling
  3. How to help my children, my ex-husband and his girlfriend to feel at ease at our meetings during holidays, birthdays, etc.? I feel very at ease with his girlfriend, but as soon as we are all together, I feel embarrassed.
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    First of all, your spouse cannot transfer his responsibility to you. You are probably talking about his obligations. Secondly, has an agreement been reached between you and clearly defined obligations at this level? Who and what decided to do? Your spouse must always be responsible for the consequences of his actions. If he does not want to do anything, it would be nice to check that
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    The consequences of his decisions seem hard for him, and he would like to hold me responsible for them, as well as for everything that follows them and causes him anxiety. Example: a divorce, initiated by him. From your question, I conclude that this gentleman made the decision to divorce, but then it was difficult for him to come to terms with his own decision. It's hard for him to take on
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    Guilt feelings are the main obstacle to human evolution. Since it arises from our beliefs, that is, on the mental level, the only way to avoid the feeling of guilt is to change your beliefs. You can read about the beliefs in the book, but first of all you must internally make sure: are you really to blame? Only intentionally causing harm to anyone can serve
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