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I have a friend, he is going to get a divorce and feels very guilty. How can I help him?


First of all, find out if he wants help. If so, tell him about your new concept of guilt. Help him find out if he really is to blame, whether he is going to harm another, or if he simply expresses his limits in relation to the difficulties he is experiencing in a married life. Explain to him that violating your limits in order to please someone else is contrary to self-love. You can thus help him forgive himself. If he does not need your help, you must respect his desire and agree that this is his life, not yours.
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I have a friend, he is going to get a divorce and feels very guilty. How can I help him?

  1. At present, I have a friend whom we have been dating for a year, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain relations with him on a long-term basis. But he says that he’s not ready, that he’s afraid to make a commitment.
    You say that we reap what we sow. Why is this happening to me, because I am the type of woman who easily makes a commitment? Moreover, this is not the first time this has happened to me. And it was difficult for other people to make a commitment to me. You have to ask yourself the following question: what makes me want so much to make a commitment? Maybe you are this
  2. How can I behave with a person who seeks to undermine my faith in myself and make me feel guilty for decisions that are difficult for him to take responsibility for?
    The consequences of his decisions seem heavy to him, and he would like to blame me for them, as well as for everything that follows them and causes him concern. Example: a divorce initiated by him. From your question, I conclude that this gentleman decided on a divorce, but then it was difficult for him to come to terms with his own decision. It’s hard for him to take on
  3. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty for not renewing marital relations with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How can I free myself from this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, based on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either make sure that this does not happen again, because you feel guilty, or change your
  4. What is the difference between feeling guilty and being guilty?
    To feel guilty means to consider yourself guilty based on our own system of values, which, in turn, is determined by our beliefs. Most people tend to consider themselves guilty, although in reality they rarely are. This is because they forget to check if they really wanted to do harm. They decide they are to blame, so
  5. How to help a person who is going to get a divorce not feel guilty? This is a man who has been married for fifteen years and has two children of eight and fifteen years old.
    First of all, did this person turn to you for help? This is the most important point that should be checked for any form of assistance relationship. You must also understand that only he himself can truly help himself. His guilt comes from his mental perception. He must choose whether he still wants to feel guilty or if he wants to
  6. When I go out alone or with my girlfriend, my husband always condemns me or pouts me. Sometimes I go out for a walk, and sometimes not. One way or another, I feel out of place. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I don’t go out for a walk, then I feel miserable. I know that I succumb to guilt, but I can not help myself. What do i do?
    It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, which says that a good wife should not go out without her spouse. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and more often wins. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to agree and
  7. How not to feel guilty if the husband constantly shifts his responsibility to me?
    First of all, your spouse cannot transfer his responsibility to you. You are probably talking about his obligations. Secondly, have you already reached an agreement and clearly defined obligations at this level? To whom and what is it decided to do? Your spouse must be held accountable for the consequences of his actions. If he does not want to do anything, it would be nice to verify that
  8. I had a very active and fulfilling life; I can’t understand the meaning of her husband’s death note, which he wrote before committing suicide.
    For the past year and a half, I have been trying in vain to understand him. Before his death, my husband wrote that he could not reach the level of my spiritual development. And now I'm afraid to return to my former active life. What to do? No one is responsible for anyone committing suicide. Your husband decided to just die this way, and this is his choice. You really consider yourself guilty of his death7 Think soberly and
  9. I live alone. Very often I get up at night to eat a piece of cake with a glass of milk. I don’t understand why at the same time I tiptoe and try not to make noise. Maybe because I feel guilty?
    You have already answered your question. Sure, you consider yourself very guilty. This guilt is so deep in you that, contrary to your will, it affects your behavior. It probably seems strange to you that you behave as if you are living with other people. Who were you afraid when you were a kid? Who told you that you shouldn’t do this or say it, and who told you that you
  10. How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-spouse without feeling guilty? Currently, she is ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.
    Nobody demands indifference from you. You can feel empathy for someone without living emotions. You can be sensitive, not succumbing to emotions. The suffering of your ex-wife belongs to her, and she alone knows why she is experiencing this suffering. She may not be fully aware of this, but nonetheless internal work is going on. Are you afraid to feel guilty
  11. What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not realize himself in this report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he sowed?
    Laws apply to everyone regardless of whether we believe in them or not. For example, if someone passes a red light and tells the policeman that he is not aware of the law or that he does not believe in him, this dzhigit will still get a fine. The situation is exactly the same with spiritual laws - the law of karma or the law of cause and effect. If a person knows that he is breaking the law, and yet consciously
  12. My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by a medicine man, went to prayer sessions, etc. At present, she says that she is giving herself into the hands of GOD and is gradually preparing for death. She has two children of nine and fifteen. What can I do as a sister?
    Your sister, apparently, has already made her choice. If she made a decision, it is important that you respect him. However, I see that you want to come to her aid, since it is difficult for you to accept her death. It’s important for you to clarify what is hard for you to accept. What do you feel in the shower? The next time you go to her, share your doubts with her, tell her that you have great difficulty believing in
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