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My husband has a panic fear of being without money. And this despite the fact that he and I have a permanent job. What to do and what to tell him?


Have you tried just talking to him about what's bothering him? You asked him if he had any questions about this, did he think about it? Was his father afraid to be left without money? If so, what did your husband as a child feel when he saw this fear of his father? Did he judge the father? When we condemn our parents, we ultimately become just like them.
It would be nice to let your husband speak out without trying, however, to convince him or read him a notation. Listen to him, ask him other questions, and try to perceive him as he is. Thus, you will help him to realize the problem and understand the groundlessness of his fears.
Blame his wild imagination. He feels miserable, and if he continues to fuel his fear, then gradually his whole life will be in the grip of this ailment.

Ask how he lives with this constant sense of fear. Does he realize how serious this is? Perhaps he does not suspect this. Say there are many good books on the subject; you can also advise him to attend an appropriate course of lectures or, if he does not mind, take a course of psychotherapy to learn how to overcome his fear.
Remember, if someone experiences such fear, it means that at heart he is still a child. Perhaps in childhood, your husband experienced a strong fear, imprinted in his memory for life. Then this feeling was so painful for him that it still does not leave him.
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My husband has a panic fear of being without money. And this despite the fact that he and I have a permanent job. What to do and what to tell him?

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    He believes that I should not take everything so close to my heart and that I should take care of my well-being myself. How should I be in this situation? Your husband, of course, is right in one thing: this is his personal life and he is not obliged to report to anyone other than himself. On the other hand, I cannot agree with his statement that he cannot change. Everyone can change for the better if
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