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In my family I do everything: home, food, children, their education, their education. I don’t understand why only I should deal with all this. My husband says that when a woman does everything, it’s in the order of things. But he is also responsible for this, right?


It depends on the obligations that you together made before the birth of the children. Have you discussed the consequences of having children in your family? Who wanted them? Suppose you really wanted to have children, but your husband told you: “I do not want to have children, but if this is so important to you, then okay. You can have children, I do not mind, because you will deal with them. " If such an agreement was reached between you, then, therefore, you should today be responsible for its consequences.
However, it seems to me that there was no concrete conversation between you on this topic, as this, however, happens in most families. One of the spouses says: “It is probably time to have a baby.” And the other answers: “Very good. I agree. ” The decision was made, and no one made a specific commitment. A commitment is a specific oral or written promise. Have you decided to have a baby together? And when they did, did the question arise of who would be involved in his upbringing, studies, getting up at night when he was sick, changing his diapers when he was still small?
Of course, these are details, but the details are important; being specified, they allow you to avoid communication problems between spouses.
As a parent, you commit to take care of your child until the age of eighteen, as provided for in human laws. Depending on your beliefs and values, you can even make a commitment to take care of him until he graduates. Together you must determine the consequences arising from your parental status.
You must act in a similar fashion with regard to the distribution of everyday household chores. More and more urgent is the need for couples to learn not only to commit themselves, but also to specify the details of these obligations. Everyone should realize their limits so that later he does not have the feeling that tasks are distributed unfairly.
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In my family I do everything: home, food, children, their education, their education. I don’t understand why only I should deal with all this. My husband says that when a woman does everything, it’s in the order of things. But he is also responsible for this, right?

  1. My wife goes to work. She never loved doing household chores, I know that and always knew that. I also go to work. Since we got married, maintaining order in the house constantly falls on me. It starts to bother me. We both go to work, and how can I explain to her that for the maintenance of cleanliness in the house she bears the same responsibility as I do?
    Did you make a clear commitment before deciding to live together? Maybe you made a commitment to do household chores by telling her, for example: “No problem. Will I do this? And now you are responsible for the consequences of your decision. However, if at present it has become too difficult for you, you must tell your spouse about it. Ask her
  2. My husband constantly and publicly gives everyone an assessment.
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  3. My wife is sure that she is always right in everything.
    She does not seek to improve our relations, does not listen to my advice and does not approve of my actions. Is it possible to live like this without feeling offended? It’s just that your spouse is used to expressing aloud what you prefer to keep quiet. Are you fully aware of your own responsibility for the happiness and failure of the family? You try to get married and take on
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