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My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by a medicine man, went to prayer sessions, etc. At present, she says that she is giving herself into the hands of GOD and is gradually preparing for death. She has two children of nine and fifteen. What can I do as a sister?
Your sister, apparently, has already made her choice. If she made a decision, it is important that you respect him. However, I see that you want to come to her aid, since it is difficult for you to accept her death. It’s important for you to clarify what is hard for you to accept. What do you feel in the shower?
The next time you go to her, share your doubts with her, tell her that you have great difficulty believing that her decision to die is the right one. Ask her how she feels after her decision. By asking her questions, you can determine whether she really accepts herself in her choice. If she does not accept herself, then she runs the risk of dying with the feeling that she leaves a part of herself and, therefore, will feel guilty. If this is really the case, then in the future she will regret it, because, acting in this way, she accumulates karma in herself.
Ask her also how she feels at the thought that over time her children will only have vague memories of her and that someone else will replace her in the role of mother.
It is important to be able to openly tell her about it, because this can help her to carry out internal work and to better understand the consequences of her decision. Accept her answers, whatever they are. Do not try to control her or impose your personal preferences or beliefs on her - for example, that she is too young to die, that her children are too young to leave them, etc. These are your beliefs, and they belong only to you. You are responsible for the ability to love your sister, even if her choice makes you sad.
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My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by a healer, went to prayer sessions, etc. Currently, she says that she is giving herself into the hands of GOD and is gradually preparing for death. She has two children of nine and fifteen. What can I do as a sister?
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