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My husband and son wake up hard in the morning. I have to wake them several times. It ends up screaming them out of bed so that my husband is not late for work and his son goes to school. What should I do in order not to feel responsible for their delay?


Firstly, this is not your responsibility, and secondly, you need to assign this responsibility to them, telling them that from now on they will be responsible for the consequences of their choice. Currently, they have made the choice to send in the mornings, and you decided to be responsible for the consequences of their choice, fearing what might happen to them. When they themselves have to answer for the consequences of their choice, they will undoubtedly see that the price they have to pay is too high and will behave differently.
It is important, however, whether you made a commitment to ensure that they rise on time. Have you made such a promise to your husband and son? If not, then it means there was no obligation, therefore, you should not take this care upon yourself. If you are nevertheless ready to wake them — at least once — you can tell them the following: “Well, fine, I am ready to do it, but only once. If you don’t immediately get up, you will be responsible for the consequences. ” Your son will have to be responsible for being late for school, and your husband - for being late for work.
But maybe you are already telling yourself: “But I will also feel the consequences of this! If my husband loses his job, we will have less money, and if my son is expelled from school, what will I do with both of them at home? I also work and cannot sit with them at home. ” In general, you decide in advance that maybe it will never happen.
On the contrary, if your fear is justified, speak with your husband. Ask him: “What will we do if you are constantly late for work and you get fired? I am afraid of such an opportunity. I agree that this may be a figment of my imagination, but nevertheless I worry about it. What will happen then? I want to tell you that I’m not ready to deprive myself of some things just because you lose your job for this reason. ”
Do the same with your son. Tell him: “What will you do if you are expelled from school? I can’t stay home to study if you stop going to school. Are you ready to agree that we will have to look for another school, which, perhaps, will be located much further from our house? This means that you have to get up even earlier to catch the bus. Do not expect me to get up and drive you in our car earlier. You might even have to go to a different type of school. I’m not at all ready to answer for the consequences of your choice just because you don’t want to take responsibility. ” It is very important to make everything completely clear, to be able to communicate with members of your family, to explain your fears, your fears, even if they are imaginary. It’s time for you to learn to affirm yourself, not endure. After all, how much easier and more pleasant when everything is clear.
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My husband and son wake up hard in the morning. I have to wake them several times. It ends up screaming them out of bed so that my husband is not late for work and his son goes to school. What should I do in order not to feel responsible for their delay?

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