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For more than a year now, my mother has been lying in a psychiatric institute waiting for placement in a medical institution. Since I am the only person through whom she communicates with the outside world, I feel obligated to take care of her. Apart from the trust that she gives me, what gift can I get from this situation? Our relations have never been close, practically they simply do not exist.


As for the gift, a hint about it is contained in your question. This is an ideal case to get close to your mother. However, how do you experience a sense of obligation towards her? Do you care for her from a pure heart? Would you feel guilty if you didn’t? No child owes his parents and vice versa. However, the bonds connecting parents and children provide excellent opportunities to learn how to give without expectations, to realize the true gift of oneself. This self-giving is a wonderful gift that you must give yourself, as it helps to open the heart, and therefore, to open to happiness. Even if your mother is not able to truly communicate with you, nothing prevents you from talking to her and showing her love. Your rapprochement will happen at the soul level.
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For more than a year now, my mother has been lying in a psychiatric institute waiting for placement in a medical institution. Since I am the only person through whom she communicates with the outside world, I feel obligated to take care of her. Apart from the trust that she gives me, what gift can I get from this situation? Our relations have never been close, practically they simply do not exist.

  1. How can I behave with someone who seeks to undermine my faith in myself and make me feel guilty for decisions that are difficult for him to take responsibility for?
    The consequences of his decisions seem heavy to him, and he would like to blame me for them, as well as for everything that follows them and causes him concern. Example: a divorce initiated by him. From your question, I conclude that this gentleman decided on a divorce, but then it was difficult for him to come to terms with his own decision. It’s hard for him to take on
  2. As a mother, I feel responsible for feeding the children well, because I believe that they are still too small to take care of their own health. I have three children aged four to nine years. Do not you think that this responsibility lies with me?
    You are not directly responsible for the health of your children. As a mother, you should be responsible for the consequences of giving birth to children - that is, to monitor their material needs, to help them learn, to transfer their knowledge to them, to give them love, and all this to the extent that you can do. On the other hand, you cannot know in advance what the results will be. You can cook the most
  3. I am an unmarried woman and live alone. My elderly parents often get sick. My mother calls me selfish when I refuse to come to her as soon as she needs help. Am I responsible for my parents? Do I always have to help them?
    Your heart knows the answer to this question, but your mind disputes it. No child is responsible for the happiness or well-being of their parents. However, a certain part of you believes that you are responsible for them, and it is quite possible that you yourself consider yourself selfish. You are undoubtedly influenced by your parents, who believe that a good, appreciative daughter owes,
  4. When I go out alone or with my girlfriend, my husband always condemns me or pouts me. Sometimes I go out for a walk, and sometimes not. One way or another, I feel out of place. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I don’t go out for a walk, then I feel miserable. I know that I succumb to guilt, but I can not help myself. What do i do?
    It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, which says that a good wife should not go out without her spouse. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and more often wins. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to agree and
  5. What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not realize himself in this report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he sowed?
    Laws apply to everyone regardless of whether we believe in them or not. For example, if someone passes a red light and tells the policeman that he is not aware of the law or that he does not believe in him, this dzhigit will still get a fine. The situation is exactly the same with spiritual laws - the law of karma or the law of cause and effect. If a person knows that he is breaking the law, and yet consciously
  6. How to establish a relationship with a spouse who takes away a lot of my energy because she needs it?
    He exhausts me daily, and my life becomes unbearable. Let me assure you that no one has the right to take energy from you. Something is happening inside you, and you yourself are losing it. If you are constantly lacking energy, this is because you too want to change others. You must constantly criticize everything in your soul, and perhaps you do it out loud. To this criticism you
  7. Should I confess to my spouse, with whom I have been living for twenty-four years, that I no longer love him, but treat him like a brother?
    I think that he also guesses about it. Isn't it better for me to leave him so that each of us can improve independently? You are not mistaken in thinking that your husband is aware of what is happening to you, although he may not be fully aware of this. I see that your relationship suffers to a large extent from your inability to communicate. It even seems to me that you should share as soon as possible
  8. My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by a healer, went to prayer sessions, etc. Currently, she says that she is giving herself into the hands of GOD and is gradually preparing for death. She has two children of nine and fifteen. What can I do as a sister?
    Your sister, apparently, has already made her choice. If she made a decision, it is important that you respect him. However, I see that you want to come to her aid, since it is difficult for you to accept her death. It’s important for you to clarify what is hard for you to accept. What do you feel in the shower? The next time you go to her, share your doubts with her, tell her that you have great difficulty believing in
  9. How to help an old person who wants to regain the health that he had at the age of twenty? He has been paralyzed for four years. Are doctors to blame?
    When a physical problem arises, then doctors are not always to blame. I admit that medical errors happen and that some doctors negligently harm their patients, moreover, not only physically, but also at other levels. Mistakes can be made in all professions: it is human nature to make mistakes. This is also part of the overall plan. The doctor needs to carry his share
  10. My daughter is four and a half years old, and I have been married for eight years. I would like to know how to improve relations with my alcoholic husband, who has been abstaining from alcohol for a year and three months now.
    The most effective means is communication. You must learn to talk to your husband without complaining about fate, without blaming him for anything, and not trying to change him. How to learn this? Tell him about your feelings frankly, without hiding, while remaining natural. Tell him, for example, about what you have experienced in the past, what you are experiencing now: about your hopes, fears, fears, observations, about
  11. At present, I have a friend whom we have been dating for a year, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain relations with him on a long-term basis. But he says that he’s not ready, that he’s afraid to make a commitment.
    You say that we reap what we sow. Why is this happening to me, because I am the type of woman who easily makes a commitment? Moreover, this is not the first time this has happened to me. And it was difficult for other people to make a commitment to me. You have to ask yourself the following question: what makes me want so much to make a commitment? Maybe you are this
  12. How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to evoke self-love? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
    The previous answer extends to this question. Why does a person often feel the need to help others without thinking that this can harm another? A person who decides to help someone without thinking about what he can do is only think about himself. He needs someone’s positive result to feel his own worth. Therefore he
  13. When I, the mother of the family, allow the children to take responsibility, I get the feeling that I am an indifferent mother who does not give a damn about her children. I am afraid that they will also judge me when they grow up. What is the reason for this fear?
    First of all, ask your children to give you their definition of indifference. Here is my definition: an indifferent person is a person who does not care about anything, who does not feel anything and who is not touched by others. Do you really consider yourself an indifferent mother? Do you really believe that? Teaching your children to take responsibility is the best gift you can give them.
  14. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty for not renewing the relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How can I free myself from this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, based on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either make sure that this does not happen again, because you feel guilty, or change your
  15. How do I behave with my spouse if he often has bouts of melancholy, which reach a panic state?
    I’m afraid that such a state of mind can seriously affect me. This situation affects you because it annoys you and because you refuse to understand the condition of your spouse. A person becomes depressed when he has low self-esteem. You have undoubtedly noticed that at times of crisis a spouse complains of pain in the heart. The heart contracts and the body
  16. How to help my children, my ex-husband and his girlfriend feel at ease at our meetings during the holidays, birthdays, etc.? I feel very at ease with his girlfriend, but as soon as we find ourselves all together, I feel awkward.
    Have you asked your ex-spouse and your children if your feelings are true? If they say yes, if they really feel uncomfortable, do they want you to help them? I feel in you a woman who shoulders responsibility for the happiness of others. Have you made a commitment to ensure that they always feel
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