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Due to unsuccessful love, I developed a psychosomatic illness, namely urinary incontinence. How do I understand my responsibility for this and how to get rid of this disease?


Start by agreeing that this physical illness is sent to help you understand that your reaction to unsuccessful love is not good for you. A responsible person is one who admits and acknowledges that his physical problem is caused by his way of being, by what he is experiencing internally.
Urinary incontinence is usually caused by loss of control at the physical and emotional levels, since fluid is associated with the emotional side of a person. When a child suffers from urinary incontinence, this indicates his strong fear of his father’s authority, the fear of being punished by him and losing his father’s love. Thus, the child strictly controls himself in order to please his father and be loved by him. And only at night does it weaken this control.
Incontinence observed in adulthood is just a reminder of the fear you experienced in childhood; this reminder helps you realize that fear is still present in you.
It is likely that you experienced the same emotional problem with your partner as with your father. Are you asking me what to do to acknowledge your responsibility? You have already recognized her.
Now give yourself the right to experience the same fear again, the fear that you are not loved, and become more aware of the control that you exercised to be loved. When a person controls himself too tightly, he eventually loses that control. Confess that since you have not loved yourself enough yet, you have depended on or the love of another to achieve your happiness. Give yourself the right to be so meanwhile, knowing that this is just a temporary phenomenon. Perhaps you will love yourself enough to put an end to this emotional dependence. Gradually, you will no longer need to control yourself so strictly, so the loss of control will no longer happen.
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Due to unsuccessful love, I developed a psychosomatic illness, namely urinary incontinence. How do I understand my responsibility for this and how to get rid of this disease?

  1. My wife goes to work. She never liked to do household chores, I know it and always knew it. I also go to work. Since we got married, maintaining order in the house constantly falls on me. It starts to bother me. We both go to work, and how can I explain to her that for the maintenance of cleanliness in the house she carries the same responsibility as I do?
    Did you make a clear commitment before deciding to live together? Maybe you made a commitment to do household chores by telling her, for example: “No problem. Will I do this? And now you are responsible for the consequences of your decision. However, if at present it has become too difficult for you, you must tell your spouse about it. Ask her
  2. How can I free myself from responsibility for my dear person who suffers in my soul? How can I get rid of deep sadness?
    If the sight of a suffering, dear person fills you with sadness, then this is because this situation awakens something in you that has long been hidden and that you tried to avoid. It would be important for you to conduct an internal study to better determine the nature of this sadness. What makes you so sad? It’s no coincidence that we choose certain people who
  3. Recently I was robbed, and I do not understand how this can come from me, given that I have never stolen anything from anyone. Waiting for your explanation.
    Are you sure that you never took anything from anyone? Look at what bothers you the most about this paint. They often tell me: "What worries me most is that they invaded my personal life, that someone else was delving into my things." If this is your case, are you sure that you have never delved into someone's personal life or did not want to do this? Or that they never stole
  4. How can I behave with a person who seeks to undermine my faith in myself and make me feel guilty for decisions that are difficult for him to take responsibility for?
    The consequences of his decisions seem difficult to him, and he would like to blame me for them, as well as for everything that follows them and causes him concern. Example: a divorce initiated by him. From your question, I conclude that this gentleman decided on a divorce, but then it was difficult for him to come to terms with his own decision. It's hard for him to take on
  5. As a mother, I feel responsible for feeding the children well, because I believe that they are still too small to take care of their own health. I have three children aged four to nine years. Do not you think that this responsibility lies with me?
    You are not directly responsible for the health of your children. As a mother, you should be responsible for the consequences of giving birth to children - that is, to monitor their material needs, to help them learn, to transfer their knowledge to them, to give them love, and all this to the extent that you can do. On the other hand, you cannot know in advance what the results will be. You can cook the most
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    The first thing that catches your eye in your question: you want the spouse to understand something. You, no doubt, have a false idea that "to understand is to love." You believe that if you manage to carefully let him know that you are suffocating, he will love you more. You are deeply mistaken. And little here depends on what tactics you choose. You don't have to
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  8. At work, I have a big burden of responsibility. I head the department, which employs 30 employees. And specific tasks are set for me. I must constantly monitor the implementation of these tasks. How can I be responsible for such a number of employees without experiencing stress and not considering it a heavy burden?
    First, you need to check if you have a clear commitment to your boss. Have you made a clear commitment to complete one or more tasks on a specific date? Are these tasks realistic? And if you do not fulfill the tasks set for you, what will be the consequences? Are you ready to take responsibility for them? Having a clear from the start
  9. I really want to keep my current family, but I suddenly realized that my husband always decides everything for me and for the children.
    He is always right in everything, and I constantly suffer from the fact that I can’t achieve self-affirmation. What personality trait do I not accept? If the spouse always decides everything for you and does not take into account your opinion, then this means that you do not want to come to terms with your feminine principle. The same thing happens with your spouse. If he is convinced that his wife needs to be led, then this indicates that
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    It depends on the obligations that you together made before the birth of the children. Have you discussed the consequences of having children in your family? Who wanted them? Suppose you really wanted to have children, but your husband told you: “I do not want to have children, but if this is so important to you, then okay. You can have children, I do not mind, because you will deal with them. " If between you has been reached
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    You doubt not in vain. One half of your "I", of course, believes that all men seek primarily sexual relations, and as long as you think so, a similar situation will repeat itself, even if you change your friend. You are scared at the thought that you will be physically possessed, and this, of course, indicates that something is wrong with you. The more you think about
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