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I am a responsible person, and I believe that on my shoulders is too heavy a burden. What to do in order not to feel guilty when I can not cope with all the tasks?


Is the burden you feel a consequence of the fact that you have made too many commitments? Have you committed to yourself or to another person? Perhaps you feel responsible for the happiness of others? If the latter assumption is most likely, then in this book you will find a true definition of responsibility. If you have made too many commitments, then this is only your mistake - it depends only on you how much to collect. Perhaps it is difficult for you to be discharged? If this is so, then you believe that discharging is incorrect.

Thus, in order to free yourself from guilt, you should change your beliefs. You demand too much from yourself, and it is your beliefs that are the reason for this demanding. It is important to give yourself the right to be released from obligations towards others or to yourself when you feel that you have taken them too much or given your consent too quickly. At the same time, it is very important to remember that other people can be released from obligations towards you. And you must admit that they have the same right to do this as you.
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I am a responsible person, and I believe that on my shoulders is too heavy a burden. What to do in order not to feel guilty when I can not cope with all the tasks?

  1. As a mother, I feel responsible for feeding the children well, because I believe that they are still too small to take care of their own health. I have three children aged four to nine years. Do not you think that this responsibility lies with me?
    You are not directly responsible for the health of your children. As a mother, you must be responsible for the consequences of giving birth to children - that is, to monitor their material needs, to help them learn, to transfer their knowledge to them, to give them love, and all this to the extent that you can do. On the other hand, you cannot know in advance what the results will be. You can cook the most
  2. My husband and son wake up hard in the morning. I have to wake them several times. It ends up screaming them out of bed so that my husband is not late for work and his son goes to school. What should I do in order not to feel responsible for their delay?
    Firstly, this is not your responsibility, and secondly, you need to assign this responsibility to them, telling them that from now on they will be responsible for the consequences of their choice. Currently, they have made the choice to send in the mornings, and you decided to be responsible for the consequences of their choice, fearing what might happen to them. When they themselves have to answer for the consequences of their choice,
  3. What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not realize himself in this report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he sowed?
    Laws apply to everyone regardless of whether we believe in them or not. For example, if someone passes a red light and tells the policeman that he is not aware of the law or that he does not believe in him, this dzhigit will still get a fine. The situation is exactly the same with spiritual laws - the law of karma or the law of cause and effect. If a person knows that he is breaking the law, and yet consciously
  4. If I allow my teenage daughter to walk late that evening and she suddenly becomes pregnant or addicted to drugs, I will feel guilty. What should I do? Maybe I'm too overbearing father?
    Between us, tell me honestly: do you really believe that your daughter can get pregnant, or take drugs only late in the evening? You know very well that there is no logic in your words. 'Nevertheless, since you feel guilty, I advise you to speak frankly with your daughter about this. Share your feelings with her. Realize also that your feeling
  5. I believe that giving birth to children is a big responsibility. It can even be called a lifetime contract. When I think I can hurt them, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
    Change your beliefs. Firstly, when you decide to have a baby, you should not think that you are responsible for his happiness. Your first motivation should be the desire to enable the soul to return in order to be embodied. It is a gift of self. Then, to continue your growth, you must learn to love this soul that has chosen you. Having a baby is
  6. When I, the mother of the family, allow the children to take responsibility, I have the feeling that I am an indifferent mother who does not give a damn about her children. I am afraid that they will also judge me when they grow up. What is the reason for this fear?
    First of all, ask your children to give you their definition of indifference. Here is my definition: an indifferent person is a person who does not care about anything, who does not feel anything and who is not touched by others. Do you really consider yourself an indifferent mother? Do you really believe that? Teaching your children to take responsibility is the best gift you can give them.
  7. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty for not renewing the relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How can I free myself from this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, based on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either make sure that this does not happen again, because you feel guilty, or change your
  8. What to do if you think you have a drug problem
    First, learn to recognize drugs and their symptoms. Secondly, trust your intuition. If you have a feeling that a subordinate is experimenting with drugs, this may be true. Check if there are any drugs in his personal belongings (most often the military men store drugs in household pantries, in personal “diplomats”, bags, suitcases,
  9. What to do with people who do not want to help themselves, but prefer to scold others for their difficulties and illnesses? What if they get angry when they are given tips and advice?
    When such a person appears in our environment, this means that we ourselves must learn not to interfere in our own business and accept these people as they are, recognizing their right to be who they want to be. They have the right to choose their own path. I understand that it’s not easy to watch how a person chooses a path full of difficulties and suffering. Often it's just impossible to understand
  10. How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to evoke self-love? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
    The previous answer extends to this question. Why does a person often feel the need to help others without thinking that this can harm another? A person who decides to help someone without thinking about what he can do is only think about himself. He needs someone’s positive result to feel his own worth. Therefore he
  11. When someone turns to us for help, how to provide it and not feel responsible for the results?
    I see that you do not want to feel responsible for the results obtained by another person, and this is very good. Half of your problem has already been resolved. True love lies in the desire to help, guide, advise others without any expectations, that is, without feeling responsible for the results. No one can control the entire sequence of steps leading to a certain
  12. I live alone. Very often I get up at night to eat a piece of cake with a glass of milk. I don’t understand why at the same time I tiptoe and try not to make noise. Maybe because I feel guilty?
    You have already answered your question. Sure, you consider yourself very guilty. This guilt is so deep in you that, contrary to your will, it affects your behavior. It probably seems strange to you that you behave as if you are living with other people. Who were you afraid when you were a kid? Who told you that you shouldn’t do this or say it, and who told you that you
  13. How to explain to the person you previously needed that now you can do without him, but so that he does not feel rejected?
    First, you need to check whether this person really feels rejected, or whether you are afraid that he will feel rejected. This fear of rejection may only really exist in your imagination. Just tell him that you thank him for all the help he has given you, but that now you feel strong enough to stand on your feet to manage
  14. How to help a person who is going to get a divorce not feel guilty? This is a man who has been married for fifteen years and has two children of eight and fifteen years old.
    First of all, did this person turn to you for help? This is the most important point that should be checked for any form of assistance relationship. You must also understand that only he himself can truly help himself. His guilt comes from his mental perception. He must choose whether he still wants to feel guilty or if he wants to
  15. What to do when nothing is glued?
    First things first - change the glue! When the glue is bad, of course - nothing will be glued. Then put together everything that can be glued in the house (for sure there are things that should not be glued - here are the keys to the apartment, the right to drive a car, maybe you should not also glue it), and so - glue everything that can be glued! Take a reliable glue - better with a peppy name - "Moment" is very suitable. And when
  16. My husband has a panic fear of being without money. And this despite the fact that he and I have a permanent job. What to do and what to tell him?
    Have you tried just talking to him about what's bothering him? You asked him if he had any questions about this, did he think about it? Was his father afraid to be left without money? If so, what did your husband as a child feel when he saw this fear of his father? Did he judge the father? When we condemn our parents, we ultimately become just like them. It would be nice to give
  17. What is the difference between feeling guilty and being guilty?
    To feel guilty means to consider yourself guilty based on our own system of values, which, in turn, is determined by our beliefs. Most people tend to consider themselves guilty, although in reality they rarely are. This is because they forget to check if they really wanted to do harm. They decide they are to blame, so
  18. What to do when I want to talk with my husband, but he doesn’t?
    I get the impression that I'm talking to a wall. Because of this, I very often refrain from talking to him. When a person completely closes in himself, this indicates his fear of losing self-control. In men, as a rule, it is a fear of showing their sensitivity and vulnerability. Outwardly, they look calm, restrain their emotions, thereby wanting to impress the person,
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