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In your first book, you advise: before leaving your spouse, a woman should make sure that she really has nothing to do with him and that otherwise she cannot avoid repeating the previous situation.


Would you like to say in this that if my relationship with my spouse is full of emotions and if I react sharply to everything, but I should learn to experience these emotions differently, and I have no right to leave him?
In my book I write that if you leave your husband for the reason that you are not able to accept any trait of his character, then in the future you will definitely meet another person with the same trait - be it your new spouse, boss, child , work colleague or someone else. We live in this world in order to learn to accept all aspects of our essence.
You notice in the spouse certain personal traits that annoy you and are the cause of your experiences. In this case, the ideal solution would be to learn to know yourself through your spouse, rather than blaming him for causing so much suffering. In this case, you would not have to either control yourself, suppressing your emotions, or leave it.

However, if you feel that you are not yet ready for such an internal work, but intend to put an end to your relationship, give yourself the right to postpone the decision for some time.
If, nevertheless, you decide to leave your spouse, then it is best to do it beautifully and calmly, realizing that the reason for your decision is not in him, but in you. If you react too painfully to your spouse’s behavior, you have every right to leave him.
If you follow my advice, it will be much easier for you to endure a divorce.
On the other hand, do not forget that in the future you will certainly meet people with those character traits of your current spouse that are unacceptable to you. By that time, you may have learned to adequately respond to them.
You need to understand the main thing: you do not have the right to blame your spouse and must realize that your decision to divorce is caused by your unwillingness to see in it a reflection of some of your traits.
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In your first book, you advise: before leaving your spouse, a woman should make sure that she really has nothing to do with him and that otherwise she cannot avoid repeating the previous situation.

  1. I really want to keep my current family, but I suddenly realized that my husband always decides everything for me and for the children.
    He is always right in everything, and I constantly suffer from the fact that I can’t achieve self-affirmation. What personality trait do I not accept? If the spouse always decides everything for you and does not take into account your opinion, then this means that you do not want to come to terms with your feminine principle. The same thing happens with your spouse. If he is convinced that his wife needs to be led, then this indicates that
  2. It’s hard for me to accept the idea that we choose our parents. I read about this in your first book and I must admit to you that I still can’t understand this. I am an adopted child and I always want to see my real mother. Why did I choose a mother who decided to leave me?
    To learn to love despite being abandoned. Since we always reap what we sow, an abandoned child is usually a soul who somehow abandoned her child in her previous life. Apparently, this is your case. Forgiving your biological mother that she left you, you automatically forgive yourself. To do this, an open heart is needed, a lot
  3. I believe that giving birth to children is a big responsibility. It can even be called a lifetime contract. When I think I can hurt them, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
    Change your beliefs. Firstly, when you decide to have a baby, you should not think that you are responsible for his happiness. Your first motivation should be the desire to enable the soul to return in order to be embodied. It is a gift of self. Then, to continue growing, you must learn to love this soul that has chosen you. Having a baby is
  4. I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty for not renewing the conjugal relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How can I free myself from this guilt?
    The relationship between your former lover and his wife does not concern you in any way. What happens between them has nothing to do with you. But, based on your scale of values, you tell yourself that it is not good to have a relationship with a married man. You must choose one of two things: either make sure that this does not happen again, because you feel guilty, or change your
  5. How to make it clear to my spouse that I am suffocating from his possessive feelings towards me? How to do this without hurting his pride?
    The first thing that catches your eye in your question: you want the spouse to understand something. You, no doubt, have a false idea that "to understand is to love." You believe that if you manage to carefully let him know that you are suffocating, he will love you more. You are deeply mistaken. And little here depends on what tactics you choose. You don't have to
  6. As soon as I want to talk with my spouse, he starts screaming. What should I do?
    I'm afraid to be wrong and I don’t know how to start a conversation so that from the very beginning it would not take an unpleasant turn. If someone is constantly on the alert, this is a sure sign that he feels that he is being accused of something. Check if you do not hope deep down that you will be able to make your husband understand something in order to prove to him that you are right. For what purpose are you talking to him? Maybe,
  7. Recently I was robbed, and I do not understand how this can come from me, given that I have never stolen anything from anyone. Waiting for your explanation.
    Are you sure that you never took anything from anyone? Look at what bothers you the most about this paint. They often tell me: "What worries me most is that they invaded my personal life, that someone else was delving into my things." If this is your case, are you sure that you have never delved into someone's personal life or did not want to do this? Or that they never stole
  8. When I go out alone or with my girlfriend, my husband always condemns me or pouts me. Sometimes I go out for a walk, and sometimes not. One way or another, I feel out of place. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I don’t go out for a walk, I feel miserable. I know that I succumb to guilt, but I can not help myself. What do i do?
    It is clear that your husband only openly expresses what is already happening in you. He is part of you, which says that a good wife should not go out without her spouse. However, there is another part of you that sometimes wants to go out with someone else. Apparently, the first part is stronger and more often wins. Make contact with these two parts in you and ask them to agree and
  9. Currently, I have a friend whom we have been dating for a year, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain relations with him on a long-term basis. But he says that he’s not ready, that he’s afraid to make a commitment.
    You say that we reap what we sow. Why is this happening to me, because I am the type of woman who easily makes a commitment? Moreover, this is not the first time this has happened to me. And it was difficult for other people to make a commitment to me. You must ask yourself the following question: what makes me want so much to make a commitment? Maybe you are this
  10. Should I confess to my spouse, with whom I have been living for twenty-four years, that I no longer love him, but treat him like a brother?
    I think that he also guesses about it. Isn't it better for me to leave him so that each of us can improve independently? You are not mistaken in thinking that your husband is aware of what is happening to you, although he may not be fully aware of this. I see that your relationship suffers to a large extent from your inability to communicate. It even seems to me that you should share as soon as possible
  11. How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to provoke self-love? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
    The previous answer extends to this question. Why does a person often feel the need to help others without thinking that this can harm another? A person who decides to help someone without thinking about what he can do is only think about himself. He needs someone’s positive result to feel his own worth. Therefore he
  12. I often feel guilty for being so happy with my spouse, while my parents have never been happy together.
    I feel obligated to help my mother, giving her useful advice and paying attention to her. Why can't I be happy without feeling guilty? What you are experiencing is very common. Many children feel guilty for having surpassed their parents in some area. When parents are unhappy, it often happens that they cling to their children. It is possible that
  13. What is a trigger, or how does the ventilator know that it is time to start a breath?
    The word trigger translates as trigger, trigger, trigger relay, trigger. For a ventilator, this is a trigger circuit that includes a breath. Currently, various parameters can be used to enable inspiration: 1. Time. 2. The pressure. 3. The flow. 4. Volume. 5. An electrical impulse passing through the phrenic nerve. 6. Signal from the intraesophageal pressure transducer. 7.
  14. How can I make sure that I don’t feel guilty that sometimes I leave my spouse alone at home with my children, and I go to my friend, to the store or just walk, breathe fresh air and think about myself?
    Feeling guilty is the main obstacle to human evolution. Since it arises from our beliefs, that is, on a mental level, the only way to avoid guilty feelings is to change our beliefs. You can read about the beliefs in the book, but first of all you have to make sure internally: are you really to blame? Only intentionally causing harm to someone can serve
  15. You said earlier that you can breastfeed even when you have completely stopped feeding. How to do it?
    Even if you stopped breastfeeding a few months ago, you will probably be able to squeeze a drop of fluid from your chest. Your milk system has not completely stopped. Resuming breastfeeding after you have stopped breastfeeding is called relaxation. Women who have never given birth have been nursing adopted babies, and this is called induced or induced
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