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Feed on demand of the child. What it is?

You can often hear from a nursing mother: "I feed on demand, my baby requires breast every 3.5 hours." Or: "I always fed on demand. In a year we had already 1 feeding in the evening, and my child quietly refused the breast. " Before talking about the demand of a child, it is necessary to find out what is meant by modern women, when they say - "I breastfeed". Modern moms consider applying to the breast is necessary for feeding a child. It is for feeding. Breast milk is food, mother supplies the baby with the nutrients necessary for growth and development. When a child sucks his chest, he eats. Breastfeeding is invested only in the process of supply of proteins, fats, carbohydrates of vitamins and microelements. The child at the time of sucking, with mother's milk receives the nutrients he needs. This is an absolute truth. There is one more unconditional truth, which in modern society is not given any importance, it is not taken into account and is not considered. Sucking for the child is communication with the mother. It is necessary to understand, but how does the child understand feeding on demand? Can he understand anything at all? Is there any difference for him, how is he fed, for 15-20 minutes after 3.5 hours or somehow differently? Feeding on demand of a newborn baby means applying it to the breast for every squeak or search movement. Squeak and search movements in newborns, even in the second and third days of life, begin to manifest themselves more often than in 3,5 or 2,5 hours. The need for attachments is rapidly increasing and by the 10th-12th day of life the need to apply to a child can occur 15-16 or more times a day. Appendices vary in duration. The kid can fall asleep and sleep sucking for, for example, 1.5-2 hours. Can release the chest after 1-2 minutes. And then ask her again. Why does a child have such frequent contacts with my mother's breast? That's why. Being in the mother's belly, in a calm, familiar environment, listening to the noises of my mother's body, while in a warm, tight, enclosed space, the baby sucked on a cam, fingers, umbilical cord, swallowed amniotic fluid. He learned to suck and swallow. After birth, experiencing discomfort for any, the most insignificant occasion, the baby tries to get rid of it. You can get rid of discomfort by hitting in the usual conditions of comfortable stay. The only place where the baby after the birth can feel the usual sensations for him, is in the hands of the mother. The only familiar action is sucking. The only familiar taste and smell is the taste and smell of milk and grease of the nipple. Milk and grease have a smell and taste similar to the taste and smell of amniotic fluid. Therefore, experiencing discomfort, the baby squeaks, or begins to look for a mouth object for sucking. Ideally, it is immediately applied to the chest. The baby becomes warm, cramped, he hears the knock of his mother's heart, breathing, grumbling in the intestines, he sucks and feels a familiar taste and smell. If such an action happens all the time, the kid becomes confident that no matter what happens, he will solve all problems with his mother. The place of comfort is now under the breast, and you can suck breast. The entire process is justified from the biological point of view. A newborn child does not feel hungry, this feeling is not formed. It will begin to form at about two months of age. How to feed a creature that does not suffer from hunger ?! How to encourage him to do something to get food? This can be done only through some other stimulus. This stimulus for the newborn is a constant bodily discomfort, thanks to which he always wants to suck! The most intense, frequent and prolonged suckling in infants is observed in the first two, three months of life. It is in these first months that a major increase in the weight of the baby occurs. How does the baby look on demand at the age of one month? The baby falls asleep with a breast in the mouth, for a time sleeping sucking. Sleeping deeply, lets go of his chest. After sleeping for a while, he wakes up and is applied on waking. After a dream, he can stay awake for a while, for example, an hour and a half. During wakefulness, he can feel 2-3 times the discomfort, for example, from a very natural desire to pee, and calling on his mother to help, after a few minutes, will do their deeds. Then he will want to sleep, feel discomfort and, pressing to his chest, again fall asleep sucking. After some time, he will wake up and come again. Then again a little "walk". And after a while again fall asleep at the breast. Day-dreams of a month-old baby, feeding on demand, are different in duration and in number. Dreams can be 4-6 during the day, and they can last from 5-15 minutes to 2-2.5 sometimes 3 hours. "Around" each sleep the baby is applied to the chest and is applied between the dreams several times. At night the child falls asleep at the breast. Usually in the morning hours begins to fumble and apply. In the morning, he almost never wakes up completely. The baby sleeps, from time to time sucking his mother's breast. Waking up in the morning, the baby is again applied to the chest. If you count all the applied attachments from a baby of monthly age, you get about 16-20 attachments. This is how a newborn human baby behaves if it is given the opportunity to behave in accordance with physiological and psychological needs, which, incidentally, are laid genetically. The child of the first months of life does not separate his personality from the mother's personality and from her breast. Mom and her breasts, and all that is associated with them, are the child's universe and themselves. In most cases, a modern woman, afraid to "accustom a child to her hands," strives to limit his requests for sucking. To help in this matter, she receives a pacifier and a bottle with a gull or water. They can also suck: The need for sucking seems to be satisfied. But only the need for communication with the mother during sucking is not satisfied, the unique chain of mutual assistance and cooperation between mother and baby is destroyed, the formation of maternal attachment and concentration is broken. Is it noticeable for the reader the difference in two actions: the baby cried, his mother took it, put it to her chest and began to shake or gave him a pacifier and began to rock the stroller, even with the words "Well, what are you crying, my sun?" A modern woman giving a pacifier and a pumping stroller, is not a bad person who deliberately harms the baby. She is simply trapped in prejudices concerning the relationship between mother and baby. She does not know how to behave properly, does not know what to do in accordance with the child's natural needs. If you tell her what the child really needs, she will cry out in horror: "Is this something, do not you let go of his hands ?!" Indeed, the child of the first months of life should not get away with it. For a woman who does not know how to carry a child comfortably, and who does not know how to feed him in various positions (sitting, lying, standing and even moving), this can be very difficult. Especially if she is not sure of the correctness of her actions. The action that should become automatic for the mother of the newborn: with the crying of the child or other expression of anxiety - attach the baby's breasts. The kid is growing. He starts to form a fairly stable rhythm of daytime dreams and the baby 3-4 months behaves completely differently than the newborn. Feeding on demand at this age look like this: At three months the baby has 10-12 feedings during the day and 2-4 at night. There are frequent attachments for a short time, but their number is decreasing. There may be a long night break in feeding, about 5 hours, but this happens very rarely. Much more often, the night break is 2.5-3.5 hours. By this age the baby's body is markedly rounded. In four months, the baby begins to noticeably less often applied to the chest. The main feedings are related to sleep: the child sucks at bedtime, during awakening and during sleep, both daytime and night. In this regard, he has a fairly accurate mode of feeding. At five months, the baby has 8-10 days of feeding and 2-3 night feeding, applying as well as in the fourth month of life, are organized around dreams - the baby eats, lying down to sleep and during awakening. At six months the feeding regime changes. The most active sucking shifts to the last 2-3 hours before awakening after a night's sleep. The period of daytime wakefulness can be conditionally divided into two periods: the morning period, when a baby that has been poured during the night is rarely applied to the chest, and the evening when the attachments become very frequent. In total, there may be 7-10 day feeding and 3-4 night feeding. At this age, the baby begins the period of acquaintance with the new food - pedagogical lure.
There are attachments associated with the introduction of complementary foods, the baby "drinks" the mother's milk samples of new food. When a child, feeding on demand, begins to introduce complementary foods, it is never meant to replace feeding with complementary foods. This is impossible in practice, because the main feedings of the baby are related to sleep, and mother's breakfasts, lunches and dinners, during which the baby gets acquainted with new food, are located between the dreams of the baby, during his wakefulness. At seven months, the frequency of application is approximately the same. At eight months the feeding regime changes. Since the baby shows high motor activity and is very busy mastering the surrounding space, in the daytime he forgets to attach himself to the chest. In this regard, the number of day-feeding can be reduced to 6-8 times. Reduction of daily feeding baby compensates for by increasing the frequency and duration of night feeding up to 6 times. In the nine-ten months, attachments to the breast tend to become more frequent. In the daytime it's 4-6 full-fledged feedings and about the same number of attachments for different reasons. The baby has new reasons for applying. If during the active activities for the development of the world the baby is stuffed with a bump or frightened, he calms down with the mother's breast. There may be situations where you can comfort a baby by sitting next to him, and embracing. At night, 4-6 feedings are preserved, the baby more actively begins to suckle the breast in the morning between 3 and 8 hours. At eleven months the baby can already have 2-3 full-fledged complementary foods. Adult nutrition in the mind of the child is not associated with breastfeeding: applying to the mother's breast is something other than the desire to become saturated with the product you like. As a rule, after the baby has eaten, he feels the need to attach to the chest. The number of daytime feeding remains the same for the child, but the number of short-term attachments increases. Active active feeding takes place between 4 and 8 o'clock in the morning. In ten to twelve months the baby, if he already walks, can sometimes be put on his chest every time he comes to his mother, i.e. approximately every 15-30 minutes. Attempts are kept around the dreams and night sucking. Therefore, if the mother says that a year the child sucks once or twice a day, this means that there is no feeding at the request of the child. There are restrictions imposed on the mother's side, with which the baby has reconciled. It refers to breast sucking, as to eating, to sleep or soothe, sucks a pacifier or finger, or falls asleep just like that, without calming down. At twelve months the baby is applied approximately the same way. At the age of one and a half years there can be one day's sleep, so the application associated with sleep becomes less. Saved for morning sucking. The kid very freely treats with my mother's breast. Sometimes it happens that he suits suck simply out of pleasure. For example, my friend's son does this: he comes up, climbs on his knees, looks into his mother's face, smiles, starts to swarm in his shirt, gets his chest, smiles at his chest, sucks in about 30 seconds and leaves. As for the number of feedings per day when feeding the baby on demand, their number is almost never less than 12. Newborn attachments have 12 or more, mostly they are all related to dreams. A child, say 1.5-2 years of application can also be about 12, only with sleep associated 3-4, and the rest - short-term applications for different occasions. I suggest to all mothers who read this text - do not count applauses, do not notice their duration. Apply the baby, as often as he asks. Moms that do not represent breastfeeding without looking at the clock may give the impression that when feeding on demand, the mother can not do anything, but only feeds the child. This is not true. After the birth of a baby, the mother begins a different life, she is called a life with an infant. That's all. The baby is with mom, and not with mom at the baby! Feel the difference J! We must be able to organize our way of life differently, in the first months, of course, the help of loved ones is very much needed. In the tradition of all nations, it was customary to exclude a woman from any household and household work for the first 40 days after giving birth, she was engaged only in a child. In some nations, objects touched by the mother of the newborn were considered "unclean", so mother preferred to protect from the rest of the farm, allocating a separate "corner" to her house, where no one disturbed her and she did not bother anyone. In Slavs, such a restrictive custom was called a six-week period. By 1.5-2 months begins to form a rhythm of daytime dreams, and the baby appears some kind of "regime", my mother becomes more free. For a mother who does not represent feeding without looking at her watch and is confident that the "right" child is a child who keeps quietly in her crib, feeding on demand will be a total hassle. It will be much easier for such a mother to become if she stops looking at her watch and ties a baby with a large kerchief or uses a patchwork holder. She will feel better if she stops running between the nursery and the kitchen, and takes the kid with her to the kitchen and will carry it along with her at home, in a box, cradle, a special armchair, if she tries not to postpone it more often, but Take on at the first opportunity, putting off the baby only in case of emergency and not for long. Breastfeeding is not equivalent to home arrest. In a modern society, you can arrange for a nursing mother to work at about 6 months of age. In case of emergency, you can start working with 4 months of age, but, of course, not every day of the week and not a full day. To help my mother to get a job is the responsibility of a breastfeeding consultant. Sometimes, advising mothers on breastfeeding, I suggest they forget for a second that they live in the 21st century. I propose to return, for example, to a cave and ask what they will do if the child wakes up at night, how to calm him down? If you go through the forest and try not to attract the attention of predators, how to make sure that the baby is silent? If the child wants to drink, what will you give him? What is the child used to, for thousands of years of its existence? To the fact that he sleeps with his mother while she wanders through the forest with a digging stick in search of roots, and wakes up when her mother stops. Since my mother stopped, then there is time to wake up and suck. Therefore, even now the child sleeps well, tied to the mother with a patch holder, wakes up when the mother, having done several household chores, sits down in an armchair to take care of the baby. Some mother, after reading about the cave, will be disconcerted, she will say that she is a civilized being. But think, please. The little man, the mother's breast and mother's milk created evolution for millions of years. They are made for each other. Baby food has made progress, and more recently. Skills of motherhood and breastfeeding have been lost by our society, too, quite recently. A person to artificial feeding and a dummy is not physiologically fit. The maternal breast will not form sufficient quantities of milk with 6-7 baby attachments per day. Nature did not know, creating a person as a mammal creature, that the time will come when the need for attachments to the breast will be satisfied at the expense of some pacifiers and nipples. Changes occurring in the formation of the personality of a child who did not have a full contact with the mother during prolonged breastfeeding are noted by modern studies of psychologists and sociologists. These are changes with a minus sign. I wish they were not, these changes. Breastfeeding is important not only for the child, it is important for the mother. During the feeding of the child on demand, the woman's feelings change, a more stable attachment to the baby is formed, the woman becomes more sensitive to the needs of the baby. Greater attachment and understanding remain not only in infancy. They last for life. Для наглядности, представьте, что происходит с чувствами женщины, если она пытается «выдерживать» ребенка, терпит его плачь, беспокойство. Что становится с женщиной, если она использует рекомендацию из одной очень популярной книжки для родителей: «Подойдите к ребенку, если он плачет больше 15 минут»? Если говорить абстрактными формулировками, то человечество заинтересованно в возрождении практики естественного вскармливания. Возрождение этой практики невозможно без осознания мамами истинных причин потребности ребенка в прикладывании к груди.
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Кормить по требованию ребенка. What it is?

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    Have you already tried to just talk to him about what's bothering him? You asked him if he had any questions about this, did he think about it? Was his father afraid to stay without money? If so, what did your husband, as a child, feel when he saw this fear of his father? He condemned his father? When we condemn our parents, we eventually become like them. It would be good to give
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    When you managed to create a mask not to suffer, it was a heroic act, a feat of self-love. This mask helped you survive and adapt to the family environment that you yourself chose before you incarnate. The real reason for our birth in a particular family or our attraction to people with the same trauma as ours is that from the very beginning we like it when others
  11. I believe that giving birth to children is a big responsibility. This can even be called a lifelong contract. When I think I can cause them suffering, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
    Change your beliefs. First, when you make the decision to have a baby, then you should not think that you are responsible for his happiness. Your first motivation should be the desire to allow the soul to return to be incarnated. It is a gift of oneself. Then, to continue growing, you need to learn how to love this soul, which chose you. To have a child is
  12. Каждая ли женщина способна кормить ребенка грудью?
    Большинство женщин способны кормить грудью: и женщины с маленькой грудью, и женщины с плоскими или втянутыми сосками. Однако очень часто они не получают ни информации о том, как можно успешно кормить грудью, несмотря на эти проблемы, ни поддержки, в которой они
  13. I convince myself that I do not leave my husband only because he will be lost without me. Is not this stupid of me?
    Your husband, perhaps, will be lost without you, and you yourself thought about the fact that you will not be easy without it? Apparently, he is very dependent on you. It is possible that you are both interdependent. I can assume that you like to play the role of mother in your relationship with him. When you are fully aware of your own dependence, sit down and calmly talk to him. Plan this conversation on
  14. Как нужно кормить ребенка из чашки?
    Ребенка нужно держать в слегка приподнятом положении, а чашку держать у нижней губы (см. рис. 7). Недоношенные дети лакают молоко, как котята. Доношенные дети прихлебывают молоко. Ни в коем случае не лейте молоко в горло ребенка. Пусть ребенок всегда сам управляет прихлебыванием и глотанием. Рисунок 7.
  15. As a mother, I feel responsible for feeding children well, because I think that they are too young to take care of their own health. I have three children between the ages of four and nine. Do not you think that this responsibility lies with me?
    You are not directly responsible for the health of your children. As a mother, you must be responsible for the consequences of the fact that you have given birth to children - that is, to monitor their material needs, to help them in their studies, to transfer their knowledge to them, to give them love, and all this to the extent that you can. On the other hand, you can not know in advance what the results will be. You can cook the most
  16. Причины, по которым женщина не может кормить ребенка грудью
    Непреодолимые затруднения или противопоказания к кормлению грудью встречаются у очень немногих женщин, среди которых, согласно медицинским показаниям, только 5 % не могут кормить грудью своего ребенка. I Ребенка не следует кормить грудью: • при наличии у матери таких тяжелых заболеваний, как патология почек с почечной недостаточностью; врожденные и приобретенные пороки сердца; миокардиты с
  17. Как кормить ребенка старше одного года?
    • Используйте для приготовления пищи разнообразные продукты. • Кормите ребенка не менее 5 раз в день: три основных приема пищи и 2 дополнительных в виде второго завтрака и полдника. • Несколько раз в день ребенок должен получать хлеб, крупы, макаронные изделия или картофель. • Несколько раз в день ребенок должен употреблять разнообразные овощи и фрукты, предпочтительнее в свежем виде • Выбирайте
  18. How often should I feed my baby and do I need night breaks in feeding?
    Feed your baby as often and for as long as he likes, practice breastfeeding at the child's request, and not on a schedule. In the first month of life, the frequency of breastfeeding can be up to 10-15 times a day or more. Then the child himself sets his own feeding regimen, while the frequency of feeding decreases. Feed the baby at night, do not make artificial night breaks. Night
  19. Почему так важно кормить ребенка грудью?
    Уникальные биологические свойства грудного молока обеспечивают гармоничные рост и развитие ребенка, защищают его от желудочнокишечных заболеваний и респираторных инфекций, инфекций мочевых путей, инфекций уха (воспаления среднего уха), а также снижают риск развития аллергии и астмы, сахарного диабета. Грудное вскармливание оказывает долгосрочную защиту и уменьшает риск развития неправильной формы
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