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Feed on demand baby. What it is?
You can often hear from a nursing mother: "I feed on demand, my baby requires a breast every 3.5 hours." Or: “I always fed on demand. In the year we had already 1 feeding in the evening, and my child calmly refused to breast. " Before talking about the requirements of the child, it is necessary to find out what is meant by modern women, when they say “I am breastfeeding”. Modern mothers consider attachment to the breast necessary for breastfeeding. It is for feeding. Breast milk is food, mom provides the baby with the nutrients necessary for growth and development. When the baby sucks, he eats. In breastfeeding, it makes sense only as in the process of supplying proteins, fats, carbohydrates, vitamins and microelements. The baby gets the nutrients it needs while breastfeeding. This is an absolute truth. There is one more unconditional truth, which in modern society does not attach any importance, it is not taken into account and is not considered. Sucking for a baby is communication with the mother. We need to figure out how does a baby understand on-demand feeding? Can he even understand something? Is there any difference for him, how he is fed, for 15-20 minutes in 3.5 hours or something else? Feeding at the request of a newborn baby means putting it on his chest for every squeak or search movement. The squeak and search movements in newborns even after the second or third day of life begin to manifest themselves much more often than after 3.5 or 2.5 hours. The need for applications increases rapidly and by the 10th-12th day of life, the need to attach to a child may occur 15-16 or more times a day. Attachments vary in duration. The baby can fall asleep and sleep by sucking for, for example, 1.5-2 hours. May release the chest in 1-2 minutes. And then ask her again. Why does the child have such frequent contact with her mother's breast? That is why. Being in the mother's abdomen, in a calm, familiar atmosphere, listening to the noise of her mother's body, being in a warm, cramped, confined space, the baby sucked the cam, fingers, umbilical cord loops, swallowed the amniotic fluid. Learned to suck and swallow. After birth, experiencing discomfort on any, the most insignificant occasion, the baby tries to get rid of it. You can get rid of the discomfort by getting into the usual conditions of a comfortable stay. The only place where the baby after birth can feel the usual sensations for him is in the hands of the mother. The only familiar action is sucking. The only familiar taste and smell is the taste and smell of milk and a lubricant of the wax-cup. Milk and grease have a smell and taste similar to the taste and odor of amniotic fluid. Therefore, experiencing discomfort, the baby squeaks, or begins to search for the subject to suck. Ideally, it is immediately applied to the chest. The baby becomes warm, cramped, he hears the sound of his mother's heart, breathing, rumbling in the intestines, he sucks and feels the familiar taste and smell. If this action happens all the time, the baby becomes confident that no matter what happens, he will solve all his problems with his mother. The place of consolation is now under the breast, and you can suck the breast. This whole process is justified from a biological point of view. A newborn child does not feel the feeling of hunger, this feeling is not formed in him. It will begin to form at about two months of age. How to feed a creature that does not experience hunger? How to induce him to perform any actions to obtain food? This can be done only due to some other incentives. This stimulus for the newborn is constant bodily discomfort, thanks to which he wants to suck all the time! The most intense, frequent and prolonged sucking in babies is observed in the first two, three months of life. It is in these first months that the main weight gain of the infant occurs. What does baby feeding look like on demand at the age of one month? The kid falls asleep with a breast in the mouth, for some time he sleeps sucking. Sleeping deeply, lets go of the chest. After waking up for a while, he wakes up, and is put on his awakening. After sleeping, he may be awake for some time, for example, an hour and a half. During wakefulness, he may feel discomfort 2-3 times, for example, from a completely natural desire to pee, and calling for help from his mother, giving him a few minutes, will do his own thing. Then he will want to sleep, he will feel discomfort and, leaning against his chest, will fall asleep again sucking. After some time, he will wake up and add again. Then again, a little "walk." And after some time again fall asleep at the chest. Daytime dreams of a one-month-old baby feeding on demand vary in duration and quantity. Dreams can be 4-6 during the day, and they can last from 5-15 minutes to 2-2.5 sometimes 3 hours. "Around" each dream baby is applied to the chest and is applied between dreams several times. At night, the child falls asleep at the breast. Usually in under the morning hours begins to tinker and attach. In the morning, he almost never fully wakes up. The baby sleeps, occasionally sucking on her mother's breast. Waking up in the morning, the baby is again applied to the breast. If you count all the occurring attachments in a baby of one month of age, you get about 16-20 attachments. This is how a newborn human calf behaves, if it is given the opportunity to behave in accordance with the physiological and psychological needs, which, incidentally, are genetically inherent. The child of the first months of life does not separate his personality from the personality of the mother and from her breast. Mom and her breasts, and all that is connected with them, are the universe of the baby and themselves. In most cases, a modern woman, fearing to “accustom the child to the hands,” strives to limit his requests for sucking. A dummy and a bottle of tea or some water come to her aid in this matter. They can also suck: The need for sucking seems to be satisfied. But just not satisfied with the need to communicate with the mother during sucking, destroyed a kind of chain of mutual assistance and cooperation between mother and baby, disrupted the formation of maternal affection and concentration. Whether the difference in two actions is noticeable for the reader: the baby started crying, mother took it, put it on her chest and started shaking it or gave him a pacifier and started shaking the stroller, even with the words “Well, are you crying, my sun?” pacifier and swinging the stroller is not a bad person who deliberately harms the baby. She is simply captivated by prejudices about the relationship between mother and baby. She does not know how to behave properly, does not know what to do in accordance with the natural needs of the child. If she is told what the child really needs, she will exclaim in horror: “What is it, do not let it go with the hands ?!” Indeed, the child of the first months of life should not be let go of her hands. For a woman who does not know how to comfortably carry a child, and who does not know how to feed him in various postures (sitting, lying, standing, and even moving) this can be very difficult. Especially if she is not confident in the correctness of their actions. The action that should be automatic for the mother of a newborn: when crying a baby or another expression of anxiety, attach a baby's breast. Baby grows up. A rather steady rhythm of daytime dreams begins to take shape in him, and the toddler of 3-4 months behaves quite differently from the newborn. Feeding on demand at this age looks like this: In three months, the baby has 10-12 feeds during the day and 2-4 at night. Frequent attachments remain for a short time, but their number is decreasing. There may be a long night break in feedings, about 5 hours, but this happens very rarely. Much more often the night break is 2.5-3.5 hours. By this age, the infant's body is noticeably rounded. At four months, the baby begins to noticeably less attached to the breast. The main feeding associated with sleep: the child sucks at bedtime, during waking up and during sleep, both day and night. In this regard, it appears quite accurate mode of feeding. At five months, the baby has 8–10 daytime feeds and 2-3 night meals, as well as in the fourth month of life, are organized around dreams - the baby eats, going to bed and during waking up. In six months the feeding regime changes. The most active sucking shifts for the last 2-3 hours before waking up after a night's sleep. The period of daytime wakefulness can be divided into two periods: the morning, when the baby sucked in for the night, is rarely applied to the chest, and the evening, when the attachments become very frequent. In total, there may be 7-10 day feeds and 3-4 night feeds. At this age, the baby begins the period of acquaintance with a new food - pedagogical supplement.
Appears attachments associated with the introduction of complementary foods, the baby "drinks" his mother's milk sample of the new food. When an infant feeding on demand is given supplemental feeding, it is never meant to replace feeds with complementary foods. It is practically impossible, since The main feeding of the baby is associated with sleep, and mother's breakfasts, lunches and dinners, during which the baby gets acquainted with the new food, are located between the baby's dreams, while he is awake. At seven months, the frequency of application is about the same. In eight months the feeding regime changes. Since the baby shows high motor activity and is very busy with the development of the surrounding space, during the daytime it forgets to attach to the chest. In this regard, the number of daily feedings can be reduced to 6-8 times. Reducing daytime feeds baby compensates by increasing the frequency and duration of night feedings up to 6 times. At nine or ten months, breastfeeding increases. In the daytime it is 4-6 full feedings and about the same amount of attachments for various reasons. The baby has new reasons for applying. If during active actions to master the world, the baby fills a lump or is frightened, he calms down with his mother's breast. There may be situations where you can console a baby by sitting next to him and hugging. At night, 4-6 feeds remain, the baby starts to suckle more actively in the morning between 3 and 8 hours. At eleven months, the baby may already have 2-3 full complementary foods. Introduction to the food of adults in the mind of a child is not associated with breastfeeding: applying to the mother's breast is something different than the desire to get enough of the product you like. As a rule, after the baby has eaten, he feels the need to attach to the chest. The number of daily feedings remains unchanged in the child, but the number of short-term attachments increases. Active lamb feeding between 4 and 8 am is maintained. In ten or twelve months, the baby, if he is already walking, can sometimes be applied to the breast each time she comes to her mother, i.e. approximately every 15-30 minutes. Attachments around dreams and night sucking are preserved. Therefore, if a mother says that a child sucks once or twice a day a year, it means that feeding is not there at the request of a child. There are restrictions imposed by the mother, with which the baby has accepted. He refers to sucking the breast, as to food, for falling asleep or for calm, sucks a pacifier or a finger, or falls asleep just like that, without calming down anything. At twelve months, the baby is applied about as well. At the age of one and a half years, one day’s sleep may already remain, therefore the number of sleep-related attachments becomes less. Saved under the morning sucking. The baby is very free to handle her mother's breast. Sometimes it happens that he is sucking just for fun. For example, my friend’s son does it this way: he comes up, climbs on his knees, looks at his mother in the face, smiles, starts to tinker in his shirt, gets a chest, smiles at his chest, sticks in for 30 seconds and leaves. As for the number of feedings per day when feeding a baby on demand, their number is almost never less than 12. A newborn has 12 or more babies, mostly they are all connected with dreams. And a child, say 1.5-2 years of attachment, may also have about 12, only 3-4 are associated with sleep, and the rest - short-term attachments for various reasons. I suggest to all moms reading this text - do not count attachments, do not notice their duration. Attach the child as often as he asks. Mothers who are not breastfeeding without looking at their watches may get the impression that when feeding on demand, the mother cannot do anything, but only feeds the child. This is not true. After the birth of the infant, the mother begins another life, she is called life with the infant. That's all. The child is with his mother, and not his mother with a child! Feel the difference J! We must be able to organize our life differently, in the first months, of course, the help of loved ones is very necessary. In the tradition of all nations, it was the custom of the first 40 days after giving birth to remove a woman from any chores and chores; she was engaged only in a child. In some nations, the objects touched by the mother of the newborn were considered “unclean,” so they preferred to protect the mother from the rest of the household, giving it a separate “corner” of the house where no one interfered with it and it interfered with no one. The Slavs such a restrictive custom called six weeks. By 1.5-2 months, the rhythm of daytime dreams begins to form, and the baby has a kind of “regime”, the mother becomes more free. For a mother who does not imagine feeding without looking at her watch, and confident that the “right” child is a child who is quietly lying in her crib all the time, on-demand feeding will be a complete hassle. It will be much easier for such a mother if she stops looking at her watch and ties a baby to her with a big scarf or uses a patchwork holder. She will feel better if she stops running between the nursery and the kitchen, and takes the baby to the kitchen with her and carries it with her around the house, in the box, cradle, special chair, if she tries not to postpone it more often, take hands as soon as possible, putting the baby aside only in case of emergency and not for long. Breastfeeding is not tantamount to house arrest. In the conditions of modern society, it is possible to organize the entry of a nursing mother to work from about 6 months old baby. In case of emergency, you can start working from 4 months of age, but, of course, not every day of the week and not full-time work. It is the responsibility of the breastfeeding consultant to help the mother to organize the exit to work. Sometimes, advising moms on breastfeeding issues, I suggest they forget for a second that they live in the 21st century already. I propose to return, for example, to the cave and ask what they will do if the child woke up at night, how to calm him down? If you go through the forest and try not to attract the attention of predators, how to do that the baby was silent? If the child wants to drink, what will you give him? What is a baby used to for thousands of years of its existence? Besides, he sleeps on mom while she walks through the forest with a digging stick in search of roots, and wakes up when mom stops. Once mom stopped, then there is time to wake up and suck. Therefore, even now, the child sleeps well, tied to his mother by a patchwork holder, wakes up when the mother, having done several chores about the house, sits in a chair to take care of the baby. Any mom, having read about the cave, will ravish, say that she is a civilized being. But think, please. Human, maternal breast and breast milk created evolution over millions of years. They are made for each other. Baby food has created progress and very recently. The skills of motherhood and breastfeeding have been lost by our society just recently. Man to artificial feeding and soother is not adapted physiologically. The mother's breast will not form sufficient quantities of milk with 6-7 babies per day. Nature did not know, creating man, as a mammal being, that the time will come when the need for breast attachments will be satisfied by some kind of pacifier and nipple. Changes that occur during the formation of the personality of a child who has not had full-fledged contact with the mother during prolonged breastfeeding are noted by modern studies of psychologists and sociologists. These are changes with a minus sign. It would be better if they did not exist, these changes. Breastfeeding is important not only for the child, it is important for the mother. While feeding the baby on demand, the woman's feelings change, a more stable attachment to the baby is formed, the woman becomes more sensitive to the needs of the baby. Deeper attachment and understanding persist not only in infancy. They persist for life. For clarity, imagine what happens to a woman’s feelings, if she tries to “endure” the child, she suffers crying, anxiety. What becomes of a woman if she uses a recommendation from one very popular book for parents: “Approach a child if he cries for more than 15 minutes”? If we speak in abstract formulations, then humanity is interested in reviving the practice of breastfeeding. Возрождение этой практики невозможно без осознания мамами истинных причин потребности ребенка в прикладывании к груди.
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