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Licensed books on medicine
Can I read or write excerpts from books about ailments and illnesses to help a person understand how he suffers?
What is the cause of natural disasters, infections, epidemics, hunger, etc., in a particular place or area, if, in your words, the people living there are not responsible for this?
I have great difficulty with the concept of responsibility. I was beaten, and I experienced all sorts of hardships. I think I was not always to blame.
When someone turns to us for help, how can we provide it without feeling responsible for the results?
I am a responsible person, and I believe that my shoulders are too heavy a burden. What to do to not feel guilty when I can not cope with all the tasks?
What to do with people who do not want to help themselves, but prefer to scold others for their difficulties and illnesses? What if they start to get angry when they are given advice and recommendations?
How should one behave with a sick person who uses his illness in order to endear himself? I feel helpless because I want to help this man, but he does not believe in anything.
How to explain to a person you previously needed, that now you can do without him, but that while he did not feel rejected?
How do I deal with a person who seeks to undermine my faith in myself and make me feel guilty for decisions that it is difficult for him to take responsibility for making?
How can I get rid of the feeling of responsibility for a person dear to me who suffers in his soul? How do I get rid of deep sadness?
How can a small child be responsible for his illness, especially in infancy, when he cannot reap what he did not have time to sow?
At work, I have a big burden of responsibility. I head the department, which employs 30 employees. And I have specific tasks. I have to constantly monitor the implementation of these tasks. How can I be responsible for such a number of employees without experiencing stress and not considering it a heavy burden?
As a mother, I feel responsible for feeding the children well, because I think that they are too young to take care of their own health. I have three children aged four to nine years. Do you think that this responsibility lies with me?
I think that having children is a big responsibility. It can even be called a life contract. When I think I can cause them suffering, I feel bad. What do I need to do to think differently?
If I allow my teenage daughter to walk late in the evening and she suddenly gets pregnant or is addicted to drugs, I will feel guilty. What should I do? Maybe I'm too domineering father?
What happens to a person if he is guilty, but does not give himself the report and does not consider himself guilty? Will he be punished? Will he reap what he has sown?
In my family, I do everything: home, buying food, children, their upbringing, their education. I do not understand why only I should deal with all this. My husband says that when a woman does everything, it is in the order of things. But then he is responsible for this, isn’t he?
My husband and son wake up hard in the morning. I have to wake them up several times. It ends with the cry that I lift them out of bed so that the husband does not miss his work and the son go to school. What should I do so as not to feel responsible for being late?
When I, the mother of the family, allow the children to take responsibility, I have the feeling that I am an indifferent mother who doesn't give a damn about her children. I'm afraid they will also judge me when they grow up. What is the reason for this fear?
I would like to know what I can learn from my mother. It makes me experience emotions - in the sense that it always contradicts me. She is negatively disposed and always says that I will not succeed in starting a business.
My spouse goes to work. She never liked doing household chores, I know that and I always knew it. I also go to work. Since we got married, the maintenance of order in the house constantly rests on me. It starts to bother me. We both go to work, and how can I tell her that she has the same responsibility for maintaining cleanliness in the house as I do?
How can I become indifferent to the suffering of my ex-wife without feeling guilty? She is currently ill with cancer and, moreover, is experiencing severe mental suffering.
Because of the unfortunate love, I developed a psychosomatic illness, namely urinary incontinence. How do I understand my responsibility for this and how to get rid of this disease?
How to help the old man who wants to regain the health that he had at the age of twenty? He has been paralyzed for four years. Do doctors blame for this?
When I go out for a walk alone or with a girlfriend, my husband always blames me or sulks me. Sometimes I still go out for a walk, and sometimes not. Somehow, I feel ill at ease. If I go out for a walk, I feel guilty. If I do not go out for a walk, then I feel unhappy. I know I give in to guilt, but I can't help it. What do i do?
How to help someone who does not believe in himself is negatively tuned, but has an incredible potential?
How to help a person who is going to divorce, do not feel guilty? This is a man who has been married for fifteen years and has two children, eight and fifteen years old.
My sister has breast cancer, already has metastases. She was treated by the healer, went to prayer sessions, etc. At the present time she says that she gives herself into the hands of GOD and gradually prepares for death. She has two children, nine and fifteen years old. What can I do as a sister?
My mother has been in a psychiatric institute for more than a year, waiting for her placement in a medical institution. Since I am the only person through whom she communicates with the outside world, I feel obliged to take care of her. Other than the trust she gives me, what gift can I get from this situation? Our relations have never been close, practically they simply do not exist.
How to help my children, my ex-husband and his girlfriend to feel at ease at our meetings during holidays, birthdays, etc.? I feel very at ease with his girlfriend, but as soon as we are all together, I feel embarrassed.
You say that if a person does not want to be helped, then you should not force him. And what do you say about Jesus, who raised Lazarus and restored sight to the blind?
I find it hard to accept the idea that we choose our parents. I read about this in your first book and I must admit to you that I still cannot understand this. I am a foster child, and I always want to see my real mother. Why did I choose a mother who decided to leave me?
I am one of those people who are always afraid of offending others. I agree too quickly when someone calls me for help. Then I regret it and do not know how to get out of this situation.
Why do you have to commit to other people? Wouldn't it be easier to wait until the last minute and make a decision, guided by the impulse of the moment? Then it would not have to be discharged.
Currently, I have a friend with whom we have been meeting for a year now, and I am ready to make a commitment to maintain long-term relations with him. But he says he is not ready, that he is afraid to make a commitment.
I always keep my promises, and it is very difficult for me to accept the fact that others do not keep their word.
I had a lover for a short time, and I feel guilty that he did not renew his marital relationship with his wife. I feel guilty for everything that was destroyed. How do I get rid of this guilt?
Recently, I was robbed, and I do not understand how this can come from me, given that I have never stolen anything from anyone. Waiting for your explanations.
I live alone. Very often I get up at night to eat a piece of cake with a glass of milk. I do not understand why at the same time I go on tiptoe and try not to make noise. Maybe because I feel guilty?
I am an unmarried woman and I live alone. My older parents often get sick. My mother calls me selfish when I refuse to come to her immediately, as soon as she needs help. Am I responsible for my parents? Do I always have to help them?
How can you argue that everything that happens to us is caused by an internal cause? I stopped at a red light, and at that time another car hit me from behind. How can I be the cause of this?
I often feel guilty for being so happy with my spouse, whereas my parents were never happy together.