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Fifth day. Love for yourself and your body

Love and only then boldly do what you want.
St. Augustine
Today we will again return to the part of the person responsible for being overweight. As you remember from our previous day’s activities, this inner child is a little girl or boy. The child’s desire is one thing - to receive happiness from life.
Since yesterday, we hope, in the child’s life there has been a little more pleasure. But, you see, this is not enough. What else does this child need? Of course, in parental love and care, which was often replaced by a bun. But when it comes to love for oneself and one’s own body, the complete lady is genuinely surprised: “3a what do you love for SUCH!” I’ll become slim, then we’ll see ... ”Sometimes I’ve heard:“ I hate my body because it's fat! ”
Very often, a person suffering from overweight, believes that respect, love and care about yourself - all this is possible only after losing weight. Perhaps you, dear reader, are familiar with thoughts of self-deprecation, self-incrimination in connection with overeating? Something like: “Why did you overeat something again, you have no shame, no conscience ... you are weak-willed rag ...”
Similar expressions are pronounced with one goal - to scold yourself, “cheer up”, in order to avoid further “breaks” and continue losing weight. But such tactics usually bring the opposite result! That's the way human psychology works. By blaming yourself, your own body, you are doomed to unconsciously seek punishment. And the method of punishment for a person full is often overeating.
The enchanted circle has closed: we curse more with ourselves — more extra kilograms — we have even more reasons to curse ourselves. In order to finally be convinced of the plausibility of this situation, imagine this example: mother says to a sick child with a cold: “I love you more when you are healthy, active, and cheerful! And now you are wet, sweaty, you lie with the temperature all day ... ”Does this mean the child will recover sooner?
But many full ladies in relation to their body do the same. Therefore, right now your body needs increased care. Feel free to tell him how you love him, and your body will reciprocate you - a slim figure.
So, just by respecting yourself, taking your personal characteristics and defending your rights, you can help your body gain the desired weight and maintain slimness. Americans in the Bill of Rights are written in black and white, ordinary human rights, which we either do not know or have forgotten.
You have the right...
1) on their own opinions and beliefs;
2) sometimes put yourself first;
3) ask for help and emotional support;
4) protest against unfair treatment or criticism;
5) make mistakes until you find the right path;
6) to give people the right to solve their own problems;
7) say: “No, thank you”, “Sorry, NO”;
8) do not pay attention to the advice of others;
9) to be alone / even if others want your company;
10) on their own feelings, regardless of whether those around them understand;
11) change your decisions or choose a different course of action.
You never have to ...
1) to be 100% flawless / flawless;
2) follow the crowd;
3) to love people who bring you harm;
4) make pleasant to unpleasant people;
5) apologize for being yourself / yourself;
6) beat out for the sake of others;
7) feel guilty for their desires;
8) put up with an unpleasant situation;
9) to maintain relations that have become offensive;
10) to fulfill unreasonable requirements;
11) to give something that you really do not want to give;
12) bear the brunt of someone else's wrong behavior;
13) to abandon your "I" for the sake of someone or something else.

Having secured with such “legal” support and protection, proceed to the following exercises.
Exercise 1. Write at least seven answers to the question: “Why do I love and respect myself?”
It is important not only to write, but also to begin to implement all these fad in practice, daily taking care of yourself.
By the way, lack of self-esteem is the main cause of "craving" for sweets. The topic of attraction to sweets is very relevant for a person who normalizes weight, and it is worth dwelling on this.

What is the quickest and easiest way to calm a capricious child? Right, give him a sweet. How to brighten up the child's time spent alone? Promising him ice cream. Remember, reader, your childhood years, when candy and ice cream represented some kind of holiday epitome. What excitement filled us with the anticipation of going to a candy store or visiting tea with a cake! As we regretted that such a “sweet life” was not every day, and did not understand adults, who, for some incomprehensible reason, voluntarily deprived themselves of happiness, there are sweets three times a day. Who among us as a child did not dream that when he grows up, then, like in the book “The Day of Disobedience”, he will only eat ice cream, candy and lemonade cakes?
One of the authors of this book, for whom ice cream in childhood has always been associated with a great holiday, still considers its sweet taste more pleasant than the taste of bitter beer. More often than not, as we grow older, we discover new and new amazing tastes that are not inferior to sweets — sour and salty, and even bitter. And yet, sweetheart has remained for us, matured, worn and tired, more than just food. It is an effective remedy against unpleasant emotions and an indirect satisfaction of the need for care.
For sweets attracts especially when you lose the object of love. For example, when leaving the parental home or parting with a sexual partner ... In a word, the lack of “sweetness” in life is compensated by the sweetness of food.
Exercise 2. "We are looking for a replacement for sweets."
If you are overly attracted to sweets, think: what is “sweet” missing in your life? When you are most strongly attracted to sweets, in what situations? Sincerely and honestly answer the questions posed. This will allow you to learn about the feelings underlying the love of sweets, will help to realize their true desires.
Having a high need for sweets, in the future, each time, sitting down at the table, ask yourself two questions: “What do I feel now? What do I really want? ”Try to find in the very life that“ sweetness ”that you (for lack of the best) received from delicacies.
Exercise 3. Preparing for the "Day of pleasure."
As you lose weight once a week, arrange a “soul festival” called “Pleasure Day” or “Egoist Day”. On this day, give yourself pleasure, do what rarely allowed themselves. May this day be wholly devoted to bliss and pleasure. You better know about your needs for pleasure - and listen to them. Make a similar day the day after tomorrow, on the seventh day of our program. And now think how you will spend it.
Exercise 4. Hike to visit.
Plan a trip to visit friends or friends in a restaurant for tomorrow. The main thing is that where you go, there is a laid table. Let's not get ahead of ourselves, you will soon find out why and why such a recommendation was given. In the meantime, call friends or girlfriends and make an appointment ...
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