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Day five. Love for yourself and for your body
Love and only then safely do what you want.
Today, we again return to the part of the person responsible for being overweight. As you remember from our previous day's activities, it's an inner child - a little girl or boy. The desire of the child is to receive happiness from life.
Since yesterday, we hope, the child's life has become a little more fun. But, you see, this is not enough. What else does this child need? Of course, in the parental love and care, which used to be often replaced by a bun. But when it comes to the love of yourself and your own body, the full lady is genuinely surprised: "What does it matter to love yourself like that ?!" Now I'll become slender, then we'll see ... "At times one had to hear:" I hate my body, because it's fat! "
Very often a person suffering from overweight, believes that respect, love and care for yourself - all this is possible only after losing weight. Perhaps, to you, dear reader, are familiar thoughts of self-deprecation, self-blame for overeating? Something like: "Why did you overeat again, you have no shame, no conscience ... Rag you are weak-willed ..."
These expressions are uttered for the sole purpose of scolding themselves, "cheering up", in order to avoid further "failures" and continue to lose weight. But this tactic brings, as a rule, the opposite result! That's how human psychology works. Blaming yourself, your own body, you are doomed to unconsciously seek punishment. A method of punishment for a person full is often overeating.
The enchanted circle was closed: we criticize ourselves more - more extra pounds - even more occasions to scold ourselves. In order to finally be convinced of the plausibility of this situation, imagine an example: a mother tells a cold-sick child: "I love you more when you are healthy, active, cheerful! And now you're wet, sweaty, you lie all day with the temperature ... "Is it likely that the child will recover sooner from such words?
And in fact many full ladies in relation to the body act in a similar way. Therefore, right now your body needs increased care. Tell him how much you love him, and the body will answer you with a reciprocity - a slender figure.
So, only by respecting yourself, accepting your personal characteristics and defending your rights, you can help your body to gain the desired weight and maintain harmony. Americans in the Bill of Rights have black and white written ordinary human rights, which we either do not know or have forgotten.
You have the right...
1) your own opinions and beliefs;
2) sometimes put yourself in the first place;
3) ask for help and emotional support;
4) protest against unfair treatment or criticism;
5) make mistakes until you find the right way;
6) give people the right to solve their own problems;
7) say: "No thanks," "Sorry, NO";
8) do not pay attention to the advice of others;
9) to be alone / alone, even if others want your company;
10) on their own feelings, regardless of whether they are understood by others;
11) change their decisions or choose another way of acting.
You never have to ...
1) to be flawless / flawless by 100%;
2) follow the crowd;
3) to love people who harm you;
4) make pleasant to unpleasant people;
5) apologize for the fact that you were yourself / yourself;
6) to be exhausted for the sake of others;
7) feel guilty for their desires;
8) to put up with an unpleasant situation;
9) keep relationships that have become offensive;
10) to fulfill unreasonable requirements;
11) give something that you do not really want to give;
12) bear the burden of someone's wrong behavior;
13) to abandon his "I" for the sake of someone else or whatever.
By enlisting such a "legal" support and protection, proceed to the following exercises.
Exercise 1. Write at least seven answers to the question: "Why do I love and respect myself?"
It is important not just to write, but also to start implementing all these points in practice, taking care of yourself daily.
By the way, lack of self-esteem is the main reason for "craving" for sweets. The theme of attraction to sweets is very relevant for a person who normalizes weight, and it is worthwhile to dwell on this in more detail.
What is the fastest and easiest way to calm a capricious child? That's right, give him sweet. How to brighten up a child's time spent alone? Promising him ice cream. Remember, the reader, his childhood, when sweets and ice cream were a certain embodiment of the holiday. What a joyful excitement filled us with the anticipation of going to the confectionery or visiting tea with a cake! How we regretted that such a "sweet life" was not every day, and did not understand adults who, out of some incomprehensible reasons, voluntarily deprived themselves of happiness, eat sweets three times a day. Who among us in my childhood did not dream that when he grows up, then, as in the book "Day of Insubordination", there will be exclusively ice cream, sweets and cakes with lemonade?
One of the authors of this book, for whom ice cream in childhood was always associated with a big holiday, still considers its sweet taste more pleasant than the taste of bitter beer. More often than not, as we grow older, we discover new and new amazing tastes that are not inferior to sweet ones - both sour, salty, and even bitter. And yet the sweets remained for us, grown-up, wiser and tired, more than just food. This is an effective remedy against unpleasant emotions and indirectly satisfying the need for care.
Sweet attracts especially strongly in the loss of the object of love. For example, when leaving a parental home or separation from a sexual partner ... In short, the lack of "sweetness" in life is compensated by the sweetness of food.
Exercise 2. "We are looking for a substitute for sweets."
If you are excessively attracted to sweets, think: what "sweet" is missing in your life? When you are most attracted to sweets, in which situations? Sincerely and honestly answer the questions posed. This will allow you to learn about the feelings underlying the love of sweetness, help to realize your true desires.
Experiencing a high need for sweet, in the future, each time, sitting down at the table, ask yourself two questions: "What do I feel right now? What do I really want? "Try to find in the life itself that" sweetness ", which you (for want of anything better) received from delicacies.
Exercise 3. Preparing for the "Day of Pleasure".
As you lose weight, once a week, arrange a "celebration of the soul", called "Pleasure Day" or "Egoist Day". On this day, give yourself pleasure, do what you rarely allowed yourself. May this day be wholly and entirely devoted to bliss and pleasure. You better know about your needs for pleasure - to them and listen. Do this day yourself the day after tomorrow, on the seventh day of our program. And now think about how you will spend it.
Exercise 4. Going to visit.
Plan for tomorrow's trip to visit friends or friends in the restaurant. The main thing is that there, where you go, there was a table laid. We will not run ahead, soon you will find out why and why such a recommendation is given. In the meantime, call your friends or girlfriends and make an appointment ...
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Day five. Love for yourself and for your body
- DAY FIFTH - TALE
DAY FIFTH -
- DAY FIVE - NEEDS THINGS
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